The battle line, between me and Olamide,ahh,am doomed ,it has gotten to spot where one would die for one,it's either am dying first or Olamide first due to tension
MONTHS AFTER
My pregnancy has became more obvious ,I prayed to God everyday and night to come into my relationship for settlement,I fasted days to make it faster
I was in the room one day , praying to God as usual,when I felt a hand pulling my hair backward,I knew who was it and I calmly complied
Olamide: I heard your prayers and what gives the assurance that God will answer you
"What's that ola,ain't you tired of this everyday fight and argument,what is it that you want from me,Olamide,you have a sister and imagine how you would feel if your sister was treated the same way you are treating me"
Olamide:how dare you mentioned my sister In your conversation and besides we were not trained to be useless the way you are in your family
"That I won't tolerate from you,don't you ever in your life mentioned my family again"
Before I knew it,Olamide pulled my hair backward suddenly and this brought me a loud headache ad I hit my head on the floor I screamed out in pains ,he kept one of his legs on my stomach without resting his full body ,I am loosing it,I am dying,
Blacked out
I don't know how long I slept but I found myself on the hospital bed after opening my eyes ,I was shocked to see myself at the hospital,was the injury this much ,I lifted my head and noticed I was placed under oxygen ,I myself can feel my heart beat,they were beating five times Normal than the usual beat ,I noticed someone walked in I turned my head a bit and saw doctor sho and Olamide having some conversations
Yes ,I can see the expression on Olamide face,fear and worried was written all over it
Olamide: doctor please,I don't want to loose iremide,I love her so much
Doctor sho :did I hear you say love ?
Olamide:yes,I loved my wife ,she is my life,I don't think there is anything I can do on Earth without her
Doctor sho:that's just a lie,you are a bloody lier,you are lying , iremide has been explaining everything to me,she had said a lot about her relationship with you ,she made me known the type of person you are and how you've turned her to punching bag ,now it's at the point of dead ,you scared ,what were you expecting when you were punching her ,you beat her right from your wedding night till her due month ,so tell me,what were you expecting if not death,I don't know why iremide wouldn't just listen to me,I told her to leave you and stay out of this toxic relationship but she claims love and promise to stand by you all in the name of bastard oat , what love could have made someone to sacrifice her life all in the name of I don't want to leave my husband,the husband that wasn't scared to loose you or even ready to kill you with his own hands
Olamide: *crying* I never meant to hurt her,I loved iremide so much but she lied to me and made me hated her
Doctor:what lies
Olamide: I and iremide dated for years without sex,she claimed been virgin and I was happy my wife was a virgin,I made it known to everyone including my families and they treated iremide like a queen, According to our family ,if a guy dates a virgin ,that's indeed a great happiness and wonders,they guy will so much be rich without controls ,so this belief made us cherished ire cause she was a virgin,on our wedding night ,I had sex with ire and found out she wasn't a virgin ,I felt ashamed of myself and my family was also ashamed of me ,they claimed I lied to them when the handkerchief they gave me was clean as usual ,so ever since then I hated her for lying to me and decided to treat like a prostitute
Doctor:how did you know she wasn't a virgin ?
Olamide:no blood stain
Doctor:was the penetration easy or hard
Olamide:it was difficult,she was tight
Doctor : you see where you made mistake,the penetration was hard due to her tightness but she never shed blood and that gives you the impression that she wasn't a virgin when you met her,that's a lie ,not all virgins bleeds
Olamide:sir??
Doctor:yes ,I will explain
Bleeding doesn’t determine if a girl is a virgin or not so I decided to drop this here to help educate our young men and women on this issue of girls bleeding during their first time of having sex.
THE MYTH ABOUT FEMALE VIRGINITY
There’s a very common myth in South and Central Asia (Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Afghanistan etc.) and Africa (Nigeria and many other nations ) that you can tell if a woman is a virgin, by whether or not she bleeds the first time she has sex.
There is zero truth in this. Not all women bleed the first time they have sex, as I’ll explain in this post. To understand why some women bleed and some don’t, it’s very important to understand what the hymen is.
The hymen is a membrane that tends to cover part of the vaginal opening (it does not always block or cover the entire vagina, as some people mistakenly think). NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE A HYMEN.
The hymen also differs from woman to woman – like all women have different heights and weights and features, all women also have different amounts and types of hymen. Some women have thick hymens, some have very thin hymens, and some women have NO hymens at all.
Some women have larger hymens, some women naturally have a very little amount of hymen that covers only a small portion of their vaginal opening (and hence does not really get in the way, during first-time sex).
Especially if the hymen is very small or thin, most of it tends to wear away on its own as a girl grows up. If a woman is born WITHOUT a hymen, she won’t bleed the first time she has sex. If a woman has a small or thin hymen, she might not bleed the first time she has sex.
If a woman’s hymen has worn away on its own (which is very common as girls grow up), she won’t bleed the first time she has sex.
The result is that the overwhelming majority -at least 63% of women – will NOT bleed the first time they have sex, according to a study published by the British Medical Journal.
Women who do bleed include: – Women with thick hymens (who constitute a small percentage of the population) – Younger girls.
Because the hymen wears away on its own with time, a 16-year old has a higher chance of bleeding than a 25-year old.
By the time a girl is/above the legal age of consent – 18, 20, 24 years of age, for example – most of her hymen is likely to have worn away on its own, meaning it’s unlikely that she’ll bleed a lot, if at all.
However, even a young girl can be physically active, have a thin or small hymen, or have no hymen at all, meaning she might not bleed during first-time sex. – Most often, women who bleed tend to be women who are dealt with roughly during sex.
If the guy forces himself inside the girl, when she isn’t ready, relaxed or aroused enough, he is likely to cause injury or bleeding.
Because most people think it’s normal for women to bleed the first time they have sex, they don’t realize that this bleeding is a result of the woman having been hurt, and not of the hymen breaking.
Painful first-time sex is generally because the woman is not relaxed or aroused enough, and gets hurt as a result; it is rarely ever because of the hymen breaking
The bottom line is that there is no way to assess female virginity. Bleeding does not have anything to do with virginity – it has to do with the kind of hymen a girl has, and hymens differ from girl to girl from birth.
The result is that only a small percentage of women bleed the first time! (Only 37% bleed during first-time sex, according to the study published in the British Medical Journal).
Why is this so important to be aware of? Women all over the world get abused, injured and even killed due to the myth of ‘virgin bleeding…
Because most people (men AND women) think that bleeding is a sign of virginity, women who don’t bleed the first time have been divorced, suffered from suspicion leading to domestic violence and abuse, and even killed for honour.
Educating people that a girl does not necessarily have to bleed the first time she has sex—because not all girls have thick hymens, and some are born with no hymen at all—is important because it can literally save lives
Olamide: *screaming*
Doctor : *sigh* it's okay Olamide,I think your wife deserve an apology
I slept on the bed without the oxygen,it was removed after some weeks and I am getting better ,Olamide walked in with the doctor and I was extremely scared I must tell but to my surprise,Olamide went on his kneels and started pleading
Olamide:iremi ,I am sorry for all I have done,I don't know it's never the same, it was your refusal to bleed on our wedding night that made me thought you were lying after telling me you were a virgin,I thought you lied
"Olamide,I swear,I never lied to you ,I was a virgin,I also don't understand what was going on ,i thought all virgins bleeds"
Olamide: that was the same mistake I made but doctor sho enlighten me and made it cleared to me that not all virgins bleeds during first sex ,iremi am sorry ,forgive me ,I still want you
"Olamide,stand up,I never hold grudges with you ,I use to love you and I will forever love you"
Doctor: wonderful,ire has gotten a soft heart ,now Olamide ,move closer to her and apologize properly
Olamide felt reluctant to move close to me but I signaled with my hands and smiles
He moved closer to me and hug me tight with tears dripping from his eyes,I disengaged myself from the hug and tears were dripping from my eyes,he rubbed my stomach and kissed it
Olamide: i would do whatever to secure you and the baby iremide , even if it's gonna cost my life,I wouldn't hesitate to do it,I caused you all these and I am ready to bear the consequences alone
"No evil shall befall us Olami,I would deliver safely and you sha live to reap the fruit of your labour "
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