Yesterday i was discussing with two corper friends and three female elderly employees, at my place of work, and our discussion was on mother's role in approving wives for their male children......
The women kind of insisted that their sons can never marry a girl they don't like or approve, because they can never disapprove a girl without genuine reasons, and they concluded that "any son who marries a woman his mother dosen't approve will surely end up with a scattered/broken marriage".........
But we the guys, insisted that mother's are not always right in reading a girl's character, even though we agreed that we will try to make our mum approve any girl we wish to marry......
However, i do feel sometimes that mother's decisions are often one sided, for example i have a cousin who for the past three years have been bringing home different girls every xmas for his mum to approve, she rejected the first one because of her small figure and short nature, rejected the second because she always looked very serious and dosen't smile, play nor behave to her taste, and then rejected the third girl because of her family background....
Okay another example is my case, supposing i later end up with chinwe and my mum refuses, because of Adaora, do you think my marriage will later crash?? Seriously friends would you allow your mum to be a major stakeholder in your marriage?? And do you think marriages without mothers approval works??.......
"betrayal" has been updated.....
Episode 155 comes up by 20:00GMT
Comments (8)
Ijebaby Ijebaby
Student
4 Apr 2013 | 08:33
Mothers are always emotional where their children are concerned and will always look out for them. Your mother's opinion should not be ignored however it shouldn't be the only opinion to consider. A good mother who has brought up her children well, will be confident in her children's decisions even when it doesn't match her plan, she'll trust him/her to do the right thing. That's a good mother.
You can't avoid talking about marriage, relationships, responsibility, respect etc, to your child and all of a sudden you want to teach him in his mature age how to choose a wife, that will not work. My opinion.
Parents blessings are important as marriage is a merging of 2 families but parents don't always get it right, they make mistakes too. I know of marriages without parental blessing and the couple are very happy with children. The parents even realise their mistake and accept the lady. It's different for everyone.
Cool Val
Staff
4 Apr 2013 | 12:48
Lol @joy.......
Ijebaby Ijebaby
Student
4 Apr 2013 | 17:35
Thanks :)
kentochi kentochi
Student
4 Apr 2013 | 17:46
My mum choosing my wife can only happen in the olden day not in this modern age
kentochi kentochi
Student
4 Apr 2013 | 17:48
In this modern age and time ¶ will be the one to choose my wife cos he who wears the shoe knows where it pinches
kaxmytex kaxmytex
Student
4 Apr 2013 | 18:36
I trust mah mom...she no fit choose d babe wey i wan marry 4 me
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Mothers are always emotional where their children are concerned and will always look out for them. Your mother's opinion should not be ignored however it shouldn't be the only opinion to consider. A good mother who has brought up her children well, will be confident in her children's decisions even when it doesn't match her plan, she'll trust him/her to do the right thing. That's a good mother.
You can't avoid talking about marriage, relationships, responsibility, respect etc, to your child and all of a sudden you want to teach him in his mature age how to choose a wife, that will not work. My opinion.
Parents blessings are important as marriage is a merging of 2 families but parents don't always get it right, they make mistakes too. I know of marriages without parental blessing and the couple are very happy with children. The parents even realise their mistake and accept the lady. It's different for everyone.