My name is Adebisi and I’m 25 years old.
I finished from a popular Nigerian
University where I studied accounting
and left the school with a 2nd class upper
case. I never had a serious relationship
when I was in school but just “Close friendship” without 18+ stuffs so you can
say I’m a Virgin or a fresh looking flower. Believe me, it wasn’t easy for me but I
never saw any guy who was ready to be
serious with me but most followed me
because I was that rich, beautiful and
endowed lady. You just asked yourself
( A uni girl didn’t have s*x all through her 4years? ) YES! I never did! I believe in
making love with a loved person not just
a guy who will spend millions on you and
your friends. I left school with a naive
mindset about relationship but a mature
girl with great brain. One faithful day ( I thought) , I was in a
restaurant in lagos when a man walked
up to where I sat down, ( I fell inlove with
this charming man immediately) but I
didn’t show any interest or sign of
likeness because I didn’t know what he wanted to say. “Hello miss, could I sit
with you?” he said this with a cool smile
on his face.
“Oh well, you can” I acted like I never
gave a damn about his presence but I
actually did. We talked and talked and talked and we exchanged numbers that
same day but didn’t allow him to give me
a ride just not for him to know my house.
I didn’t know what happened but I knew I
gave him the number and wished he
asked for my bbm pin. I left the scene and decided not to think too much about
the young man. After some days, I received a call from
this young man I met at the restaurant,
ohh his name? “Emeka”. Oh well, he just
called to ask for my well being and all
sha. He started calling so much I knew he
had something in mind but he never wanted to say within a short time even
though I wanted him to because I had
fallen for his caring attitude, personality
and all. He called me this boring evening
and asked me if we could go on a dinner,
OMG, I was so happy to say YES! I even wanted to say “Yes baby” but as a
Nigerian girl, I had to form a little so as to
look decent and not cheap. We met at
the 5 star hotel in Lagos ( ikeja) and we
had our 1st kiss that night. I know you are
thinking I’m Hoe or cutlass but No! I was inlove with the perfect guy. He had
everything I wished for in my man’s life. After sometime, we started dating and
everything was going fine but It was too
late for me to know Emeka was a jealous
guy, a drunk and had some nasty friends.
He never showed his true self to me for
over four sweet months we spent together before dating. I wanted to leave
him but I was so into him, I hoped he was
going to change but Emeka never did.
“Did I make a mistake for falling for
Emeka trap? Was I stupid to say yes to
his date request? I asked myself all these but still hoped he changed. Emeka and I
started having s*x atleast 6 times a week
and I must say I enjoyed every s*x/style
we had but he sometimes violently made
love with me. I wasn’t bothered because
he told me how much he loved me after we made love. One day, Emeka and I were in the living
room having fun and my phone rang. It
was a male friend who called me to check
up on me and all but Emeka never
calmed down and he beat me mercilessly
that day for picking up my phone to talk to a male friend. I never saw it coming or
even believed he could do something like
that to me who he claimed to love. I
overlooked it after he apologised and
told me he was never going to do that
again. I was perplexed for some days after the beating incident but love was
too much for him I overlooked. Emeka and his friends came back home
one night and they were so drunk and
lifeless. I was surprised to see the gentle
man I met some 6months ago in that
manner and also wasn’t happy when I
saw his 3 friends with him that night. I went straight to my room with so much
anger and locked my door thinking I will
wake up to my normal man lover in the
morning. GBA GBA GBA, it was a knock
on my door and I was scared at first.
“Who’s that?” I said with a shaky voice “It’s me” Emeka replied with a silly drunk
voice, I went straight to my door and
immediately I opened my door, Emeka
and his 2 friends rushed in, carried me to
the living room and made love to me
violently that night. I WAS RAPED!!!!!! I cried all night after the incident and
packed my bags, I just wanted to leave
the house and his life. I couldn’t think of
who to tell about what just happened but
I left for good. After some days, Emeka
started calling and he sent me different messages apologising for whatever
happened that night and asked if I could
meet him at our regular joint. I thought of
not going but I loved him! I really did love
Emeka so I went straight to our joint. He
apologised and promised to change and never do what he did again, he even told
me he had cut his friends away because
they urged him to do what he did. After
all the begging, I forgave him, followed
him to his home and we made love. I
didn’t know what was wrong with me but I loved him so much. Meanwhile, after Emeka apologised to
me, he added beating again to his case
and I suffered a lot from him via his
beating and threatened me never to tell
anyone about it and yet I never wanted
to leave him because I loved him. I told different lies about my injuries and guess
what? He kept raping me whenever I told
him I wasn’t ready for s*x with him. We
used to have 6 times a week but
switched to atleast 15 rape incidents a
week or 2. I was tired of all these but never wanted to leave because of the
love I had for him. Guess what? Within
2years, I had 5 abortions for him due to
rough and unwanted s*x without condom.
Whenever I leave the house after
beating, rape, he kept coming back to apologise and his people kept begging
me to forgive him. Oh, before I forget, 2
of the abortions I had wasn’t for Emeka
but for his 2 friends. They kept making
love to me whenever they like and kept
threatening me never to tell anyone about it and if I ever, they will show the
world my s*x tape which Emeka recorded
for them to watch. I wasn’t free anymore with my man lover
whenever his friends were around to play
and eat in our house. He beat me up
whenever I don’t cook for him and his
friends. He will drag me from my room to
show his friends my naked body just to brag about his lady body and how
endowed she is. I was absolutely nothing
in his face/house anymore. I couldn’t keep up with the way things
were going so I left his house and never
went back and he never searched for me.
It took me a year or 2 before I could
totally forget my 1st love and relationship
with Emeka and his wicked friends. I never told anybody about this. Where should I start from? Was I
foolish? Is it a crime to love and hope for
good times? I know many girls in Nigeria,
Africa, world are passing through what I
passed through but I think it’s high time
we stand against #FemaleChildAbuse #ChildRape and say No to Violence in
relationship. I have parents/friends I could talk to but I
was threatened and abused! I wasn’t
strong because love made me weak! It
was a sad time in my life. Written by @RealBabymouth
