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Should He Go Ahead &  Marry This Lady Despite  Her 'Bad' Sides?

Should He Go Ahead & Marry This Lady Despite Her 'Bad' Sides?

By Blessedgirl in 3 Nov 2015 | 04:45
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I met my fiancee some few yrs ago. I've agreed to marry her but there are factors I still want to give a final consideration before signing the dotted lines.

These are:
1. She is not literate but willing to go to school. I never dreamt of marrying an illiterate when I, myself is a graduate. Her waec result is nothing to write home about. In fact she wasted her time in secondary school as far as I'm concerned and when I asked her why she was such an olodo, she quickly blamed those she lived with. She said because she was more or less a maid then, she hadn't much time for her studies and that's why she failed woefully. When I met her, her use of english was zero and I had to exert much effort to bring her to the level where she could converse freely with me at least in english. She retook her ssce and credited all subjects except math.

2. She's 2yrs and 3months older than me. Some argue that a woman will age first when older and that's the reason men go for younger women or at worst, their age mates.

3: She sometimes feel inferior to me cos' of my literacy and polished way of going about my stuff.

4. She has a fat tummy. This I perceived to be an upshot of her eating habit before I met her. Can you believe that it was when I started staying close to her that I discovered that she doesn't drink water after eating. Maybe she does that very much later. She was an expert in devouring meat with her friends and never exercised. I also had to teach her to drink water first thing in the morning before taking breakfast. I discovered that her mouth was always dry as a result of this disgusting lifestyle. If she wants to have a word with me in low tone, I do perceive some offensive odours from the mouth sometimes. All this are changing slowly now cos' a damage of so many years can't just be corrected overnight. I'm putting much effort into rearing her cos' she's a wife material.
There are one or two other drawbacks I won't like to go into now as the aforementioned factors are the ones that baffle me the most. I sometimes get so annoyed and start abusing her. But she also has her good sides that even attracted me to her which are:
1. She is well-mannered.
2. She can cook very well.
3. She is very hospitable.
4. She's very respectful.
5: She's pretty and fair.
6. She's a wife material.
7. She's reserved.
The crux here is that we are presently, not on the same page as far as being learned and refined is concerned and I want to marry someone who'll be very refined as well. Though we stay as friends but I feel she doesn't measure up.
So my people, if you were in my shoes, can you go ahead and marry her despite these bad sides??
Pls and pls, helpful comments will suffice.
3 Nov 2015 | 04:45
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Not a matter of in ur shoe d choice us urs if u can continue like dat and as u said it earlier i guess she is ready to change so if u can endure till den y cant u marry her but if u cant endure her it better u let her go now so dat u life wont latter become had i know
3 Nov 2015 | 04:52
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I beg w@ did u call bad,becux shex not a graduate ehn ehn she has seat 4 anoda exam nd she make it d@ one z zero escuse......... She has a big tummy z it tummy u wana eat,sebi u hav started d corection den continue wt it,always take her out 4 exercise nd d rest....... To cap it all shex pretty,well marnerd,good cook,hospitable to cap it all u said shex a wife material.....my broda dnt waist ur tym in fidin anoda gel tush her up to ur standerd since shex ready to do ur biddin,so why d complait...I beg u better dnt loose w@ u hav nd be regretin it later on... D age difrnce z nt d@ much just only 2years d@ not a prblm since u love her so w@ d stress..... Nd also stop sein her as inferior to u or else u will be getin to dispys her soon or latter
3 Nov 2015 | 05:07
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It is difficult 2 find teachable women dis days cos majority r proud of who they r & don't need 2 change 4 anything.4rm ur write-up,she is teachable,ready 2 learn & even learning fast.Guy,her good side over-shadows her bad side as far as i am concerned.If na her tummy u wan marry,go well o.Even with d tummy,she can do work-outs,wear an hour-glass tummy fit 2 help her with her work-outs & all.Guy,u really hav no excuse here,if u wanna marry her,go ahead & polish her 2 ur taste.U won't b d 1st 2do dat.I hav seen men dat pick illiterate girls 4rm d villa,bring dem 2d city,polish dis ladies 2 their high-class taste & marry dem.D important thing is love.If u don't love her,move on.If u do,complete d work of transformation u hav began on her & eat d fruits of ur labour after ur marriage 2 her.He who has ear,mak im hear.
3 Nov 2015 | 05:48
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Mehn....Very tiqht situation here....U mean she's 2yrz and 3mnthz older than you?? Did'nt she tell you daht b4 u proposed to her??? Cos to me dat should be the basics... I think all other neqative attributes of her can be chanqed and yes she's ready to learn... Xo if u feel u really love her (not pity) and the aqe factor not an hindrance to you...you can qo ahead and marry her cos she's a wife material like u've riqhtly said....My opinion sha...
3 Nov 2015 | 06:18
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Erhmm u said she is a wife material which i think is more than enough reason to tie the knot . . . As far is she is not more than five years older than you i don't think it shud b a problem , after all David Beckham's wife is two years older than him and come think of Peter Okoye's wife is olde than him too
3 Nov 2015 | 07:24
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Nawa o.i wil advice u to follow ur hrt,every gal hv her own weakness nd also advantages,u can nt see a gal dat is 100% perfect.
3 Nov 2015 | 07:35
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Frm my point of view:I do nt advic any man 2 mari a lady oldr dan him bt if u reali luv her indid,I won't tel u to retreat.Sinc 'Nobody is perfct' if she has up to 80% of wat u desire in a woman,dat's enuf 2 kip d relatnshp goin n sinc she's ready 2 improv(learnet)u cn help her out n wit tim she'll get 2 standard.Be sure u'r nt marrin her out of pitty cuz d feature won't b bright at al.
3 Nov 2015 | 08:13
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As for me o... You are free to marry her cos age is nothing but a number in a relationship.. In terms of education, she is ready to learn and apart from that dere are some graduate that lack manner... Just forget about her worst part and consider her good sides..... And am very sure that with time, you will understand each other better....
3 Nov 2015 | 12:52
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Graduates rather.....
3 Nov 2015 | 12:53
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Above all, she gonna be the best wife in town. Like seriously the kinda love u ar developing is UNBREAKABLE, get those negative thought outta ur mind cuz the last time i checked,itz nothing****** atleast she aint pretending to be what she's not. BUT dont waste ur time or hers blabing dude quit if u cant buy it.
3 Nov 2015 | 17:36
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As for me... as far as she got everything I need in a woman and ready to learn..... Bros carry on ...... Age z just a nomba....
3 Nov 2015 | 18:30
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it is finished!!!
4 Nov 2015 | 03:13
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm u ar saying dat she hav a tummy, she's older dan u, too fat nd she also eat alot nd also if she eat she doesnt drink water all na xcuses ooooooooo cux i tink u're done wit her u're just looking 4 excuse 2 dump her or dont u knw all dat b4, b4 u started dating her ooooooo so ar u nau telling me dat u're a perfect guy also? Cux no one is perfect oooooooooooo if u're done wit her tell her nd stop wasting her time but if u tink dat u can continue d relationship den go ahead cux i hate excuses but d choice is urs ooooooo
4 Nov 2015 | 03:49
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@taiwo tell him ooo e no see im fat belle before lol
4 Nov 2015 | 07:30
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That should not be a problem, every human got their own flaws. beside you can establish her, and enrol her in a part-time problem.
4 Nov 2015 | 12:35
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Hmmmm...age z jst a number,ur love matterz . . she z nt educated bt willingly to go to school,den fine,sponsor ha . . correct all her flaws,blend ha to ur taste...remember no one z perfect
5 Nov 2015 | 10:22
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Mehn ur matter pass naija present situation Me sef no fit say anytin now.
6 Nov 2015 | 10:29
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I see nothing bad in marrying her like my friends here said already, she is ready 2 learn so go ahead nd brush her up
6 Nov 2015 | 11:41
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