My Wife Has Refused to Come Home After Graduating From The University

I sent my wife to Ukraine to
study anesthesiology on the
advice of my mentor and
wedding sponsor. She left with
our last little baby girl leaving me
with our three boys who shuttle between staying with my parents
at Anthony village and coming
home some weekends when i am
in town. Its almost 5 yrs now she
left us. She finished d course
2014 (almost going to 3yrs now) but refuses to come back home.
She claim that she had an offer
to also major in pharmacology as
she was offered scholarship by a
Kiev based immigrant
development program. I sold my land at Sapele to
finance her before she left. Now
she telling me that there is lots of
poverty in Nigeria that i should
start making arrangement to send
our three sons over there while i plan on joining them when i am
ready. I really think i have shot
myself in the leg with my own
gun. My worry is that she could
afford to abandon her kids. Since
the later part of 2014, I have refused to put the kids on the
phone with her believing that she
would miss them and think twice
but i was mistaken. I am not daft.
I know a man is involved behind
the scene. I accused her of being harbored by another man and
also of cheating too. she flared
up accusing me of being
insecure and obsessive. She
even threatened to sue me for
denying her access to her sons. early last year, during an
argument, she told me that i was
free to marry another woman if i
cant wait after-all some people
told her that i dont even sleep at
home on weekends. That all she wants is her children that I am
free to do as i like. I involved my mentor and even
our pastor who also tried talking
sense into her and the latest
development is that she dosnt
take his calls anymore. She told
him that if he was truly a man of God that he should advise me to
start thinking of moving to
Ukrainian instead of supporting
me to bring her back to suffering
in Nigeria. Even the GS wife who
was like a mother to us had to back off when she accused her
of intruding into our marriage
before banging the phone on her.
Am facing lots of
temptation,pressure and
sexually. As a christian what do i do in this
situation cos i know that she is
enjoying herself over there with
another man. I have been faithful
all through. I have even been
pushed to masturbate a few times just to maintain my vows
before God. She has caused me lots of grief.
I have not seen my daughter in 5
years. She stopped allowing me
to speak to her because i didnt
put the boys on the phone. I am
losing my mind. I need ur advice and prayers. How can a responsible woman
abandoned her family just like
that. Its not that we can not move
to Europe but it has to be my call
not just something she can wake
up and force down my throat.