The first time of everything do leave a lasting impression,
doesn't it? Especially if its a special one. That's why I decided to
come up with this write-up.
Lots of guys have and are still messing up the first time
experiences for girls out there and its time to right the wrongs.
Time to really know what us girls desire on our first time.
Pick a pen and a notepad.
1. Understanding.
Imagine you have this treasure, something u don't want to part
with anytime soon and suddenly, another wants to take it from
you. What would be your reaction? "Nah! No way!". Now
imagine if you are told that in the act of giving this treasure out,
you suffer unbearable pains. Surely you would hesitate, might
even despise the person who's asking for it. Kudos to every girl
out there who has or is about to give up her treasure cause its
definitely not an easy decision.
Guys, we demand that u understand that its not an easy thing
to do. The pains, the fears, the self-disgust....we have a lot
going through out systems at that moment. You should
always remember to understand us....especially when we get
all emotional and give way to tears. It aint easy.
2. Be Loving.
Pushing us to the bed and slam bam aint what we want on our
first time. Be loving, caring...don't give us reasons to give it up
to you, let's see it for ourselves. We are not asking for poems
and roses (though it actually sounds like a grand idea), no, but
for you to make it one of the best out of our bestest memories.
Hold us, be passionate, be sweet, be loving.
3. Foreplays.
Most guys don't actually have time for foreplays, in fact, they
confuse No. 2 with foreplays. Well, am here to correct that.
Foreplays are actually those exciting things you do to motivate
our body to want u. Could be soft kisses on the neck,
whisperings of sweet nothingness into our ears, gentle
touch...whatever! Just get us physically excited before you take
a step further.
NB: Most times it helps to ask a girl what she wants. Something
like, "What would you want me to do to you?" Or, "Would u
like me to...".
4. Be Careful!
The tedious part in this intimate ritual is actually breaking in and
going into her but it can also be the most painful. Be gentle,
don't force it. Always ask questions like, "Am I hurting you?",
"Do I go on?". Note her every sound, is it a whimper or a
moan? Is she tensed up or relaxed? Remember, this ritual has
everything to do with her, not u.
5. Cuddle up.
After giving up something so precious to you, what would you
do if the receiver walks away with not much as a "thank you"?
Feel guilty shey? Now that's same for us when you don't hold
us close after everything and tell us those sweet things we
want to hear. Now I know most guys would be like, "I don't
know what to say...". Dude, just hold her. A lot of things can
be said without actually opening your mouth. You can stroke
her hair, play with her hands, place her head on your chest or
even kiss her passionately....that would do.
That's all I have guys, hope u learnt something from this.
Would love a male's version though, let us girls know what
you want too.
