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“My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband” – What Do I Do?

“My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband” – What Do I Do?

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“My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband” – What Do I Do?
October 29, 2016 by NaijaNewsPlus Leave a Comment


Honestly I’m not sure what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes, I think I’m losing my mind for no reason. Then again, I feel something really wrong is going on. Let me give a bit of background.

I’m in my early 30s and I’ve been married for about 3 years without kids. My husband and I live in a European country and we have a great relationship. I have a BFF, let’s call her X.

“My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband” – What Do I Do?
October 29, 2016 by NaijaNewsPlus Leave a Comment


Honestly I’m not sure what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes, I think I’m losing my mind for no reason. Then again, I feel something really wrong is going on. Let me give a bit of background.

I’m in my early 30s and I’ve been married for about 3 years without kids. My husband and I live in a European country and we have a great relationship. I have a BFF, let’s call her X.

She’s about my age but older by two years. Our parents worked for the same oil company and were very friendly with each other. We both went to the same secondary school in Nigeria, ended up in the West together for uni and have had loads of fun times together.
She knew my husband from the days of toasting to dating and marriage. To be fair to her, she has been so supportive. When I had no one or money difficulties as a student, she was there for me in a way no one could. A friend who is closer than a sister.
“My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband” – What Do I Do?
October 29, 2016 by NaijaNewsPlus Leave a Comment


Honestly I’m not sure what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes, I think I’m losing my mind for no reason. Then again, I feel something really wrong is going on. Let me give a bit of background.

I’m in my early 30s and I’ve been married for about 3 years without kids. My husband and I live in a European country and we have a great relationship. I have a BFF, let’s call her X.

She’s about my age but older by two years. Our parents worked for the same oil company and were very friendly with each other. We both went to the same secondary school in Nigeria, ended up in the West together for uni and have had loads of fun times together.
READ: Please Advice : “My Wife Prays As If She’s Fighting With God

She knew my husband from the days of toasting to dating and marriage. To be fair to her, she has been so supportive. When I had no one or money difficulties as a student, she was there for me in a way no one could. A friend who is closer than a sister.
My problem is with her closeness with my husband. My husband and I are not from the same tribe. When marrying overseas, you can’t be filtering for tribe. However, X is from the same tribe as my husband.

Sometimes, the way they gist in their local dialect makes me uncomfortable, always laughing crazily like teenagers. In all my years of marriage, I haven’t enjoyed that the banter that they have.

Whenever when they discuss in English like when we all hang out together, I feel like the third wheel. Sometimes, my gut tells me she is flirting with him with her general body language and the way she makes faces at him. The fact that X was she was a wild chic at university just makes uneasy.

My husband doesn’t even seem to restrain her or himself, like I think a married man should. She hasn’t done anything overt. It is the nudging him in the ribs, the rubbing of his head or even gentle tugging of his beard that is making me go crazy. The way she laughs at his jokes; jokes that are not even funny. She is too damn relaxed in his presence.

She has even this nickname for him in their dialect. When my hubby got a promotion and we all went out to eat, X came to the restaurant dressed to the nines and wearing this incredible fragrance. Then she gave him this bear hug that I felt lasted for too long. I don’t feel all this is normal but I don’t want to be a prude.

“My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband” – What Do I Do?
October 29, 2016 by NaijaNewsPlus Leave a Comment


Honestly I’m not sure what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes, I think I’m losing my mind for no reason. Then again, I feel something really wrong is going on. Let me give a bit of background.

I’m in my early 30s and I’ve been married for about 3 years without kids. My husband and I live in a European country and we have a great relationship. I have a BFF, let’s call her X.

She’s about my age but older by two years. Our parents worked for the same oil company and were very friendly with each other. We both went to the same secondary school in Nigeria, ended up in the West together for uni and have had loads of fun times together.
READ: Please Advice : “My Wife Prays As If She’s Fighting With God

She knew my husband from the days of toasting to dating and marriage. To be fair to her, she has been so supportive. When I had no one or money difficulties as a student, she was there for me in a way no one could. A friend who is closer than a sister.
My problem is with her closeness with my husband. My husband and I are not from the same tribe. When marrying overseas, you can’t be filtering for tribe. However, X is from the same tribe as my husband.

READ: (S3,x Story)Short and Sweet: How i do it
Sometimes, the way they gist in their local dialect makes me uncomfortable, always laughing crazily like teenagers. In all my years of marriage, I haven’t enjoyed that the banter that they have.

Whenever when they discuss in English like when we all hang out together, I feel like the third wheel. Sometimes, my gut tells me she is flirting with him with her general body language and the way she makes faces at him. The fact that X was she was a wild chic at university just makes uneasy.
READ: Please Advice : Am Tired My Boss Use Me as S*x Machine, Sometimes R*pes Me in His Office
My husband doesn’t even seem to restrain her or himself, like I think a married man should. She hasn’t done anything overt. It is the nudging him in the ribs, the rubbing of his head or even gentle tugging of his beard that is making me go crazy. The way she laughs at his jokes; jokes that are not even funny. She is too damn relaxed in his presence.

She has even this nickname for him in their dialect. When my hubby got a promotion and we all went out to eat, X came to the restaurant dressed to the nines and wearing this incredible fragrance. Then she gave him this bear hug that I felt lasted for too long. I don’t feel all this is normal but I don’t want to be a prude.
READ: TRUE CONFESSION: I had SEX with my daughter’s BOYFRIEND ….. up till NOW

I know she is not seeing anyone, she would tell me if so. Her life has been a bit scattered so she hasn’t cultivated a serious relationship. She’s prettier than I am and I know she shouldn’t have any problem attracting guys.
What can I do? I can’t just cut her off abruptly or ban her from her house. It would be odd and besides, we have a lot of mutual friends. To be fair to my husband, he hasn’t given me any tangible reason to be suspicious but you know what they say about naija men.

I don’t know of anytime they have been in the same place without my knowledge. But he is not helping matters the way he always invites her for events or compliments her or things like that.


“My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband” – What Do I Do?
October 29, 2016 by NaijaNewsPlus Leave a Comment


Honestly I’m not sure what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes, I think I’m losing my mind for no reason. Then again, I feel something really wrong is going on. Let me give a bit of background.

I’m in my early 30s and I’ve been married for about 3 years without kids. My husband and I live in a European country and we have a great relationship. I have a BFF, let’s call her X.

She’s about my age but older by two years. Our parents worked for the same oil company and were very friendly with each other. We both went to the same secondary school in Nigeria, ended up in the West together for uni and have had loads of fun times together.
READ: Please Advice : “My Wife Prays As If She’s Fighting With God

She knew my husband from the days of toasting to dating and marriage. To be fair to her, she has been so supportive. When I had no one or money difficulties as a student, she was there for me in a way no one could. A friend who is closer than a sister.
My problem is with her closeness with my husband. My husband and I are not from the same tribe. When marrying overseas, you can’t be filtering for tribe. However, X is from the same tribe as my husband.

READ: (S3,x Story)Short and Sweet: How i do it
Sometimes, the way they gist in their local dialect makes me uncomfortable, always laughing crazily like teenagers. In all my years of marriage, I haven’t enjoyed that the banter that they have.

Whenever when they discuss in English like when we all hang out together, I feel like the third wheel. Sometimes, my gut tells me she is flirting with him with her general body language and the way she makes faces at him. The fact that X was she was a wild chic at university just makes uneasy.
READ: Please Advice : Am Tired My Boss Use Me as S*x Machine, Sometimes R*pes Me in His Office
My husband doesn’t even seem to restrain her or himself, like I think a married man should. She hasn’t done anything overt. It is the nudging him in the ribs, the rubbing of his head or even gentle tugging of his beard that is making me go crazy. The way she laughs at his jokes; jokes that are not even funny. She is too damn relaxed in his presence.

She has even this nickname for him in their dialect. When my hubby got a promotion and we all went out to eat, X came to the restaurant dressed to the nines and wearing this incredible fragrance. Then she gave him this bear hug that I felt lasted for too long. I don’t feel all this is normal but I don’t want to be a prude.
READ: TRUE CONFESSION: I had SEX with my daughter’s BOYFRIEND ….. up till NOW

I know she is not seeing anyone, she would tell me if so. Her life has been a bit scattered so she hasn’t cultivated a serious relationship. She’s prettier than I am and I know she shouldn’t have any problem attracting guys.
What can I do? I can’t just cut her off abruptly or ban her from her house. It would be odd and besides, we have a lot of mutual friends. To be fair to my husband, he hasn’t given me any tangible reason to be suspicious but you know what they say about naija men.

I don’t know of anytime they have been in the same place without my knowledge. But he is not helping matters the way he always invites her for events or compliments her or things like that.

“My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband” – What Do I Do?
October 29, 2016 by NaijaNewsPlus Leave a Comment


Honestly I’m not sure what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes, I think I’m losing my mind for no reason. Then again, I feel something really wrong is going on. Let me give a bit of background.

I’m in my early 30s and I’ve been married for about 3 years without kids. My husband and I live in a European country and we have a great relationship. I have a BFF, let’s call her X.

She’s about my age but older by two years. Our parents worked for the same oil company and were very friendly with each other. We both went to the same secondary school in Nigeria, ended up in the West together for uni and have had loads of fun times together.
READ: Please Advice : “My Wife Prays As If She’s Fighting With God

She knew my husband from the days of toasting to dating and marriage. To be fair to her, she has been so supportive. When I had no one or money difficulties as a student, she was there for me in a way no one could. A friend who is closer than a sister.
My problem is with her closeness with my husband. My husband and I are not from the same tribe. When marrying overseas, you can’t be filtering for tribe. However, X is from the same tribe as my husband.

READ: (S3,x Story)Short and Sweet: How i do it
Sometimes, the way they gist in their local dialect makes me uncomfortable, always laughing crazily like teenagers. In all my years of marriage, I haven’t enjoyed that the banter that they have.

Whenever when they discuss in English like when we all hang out together, I feel like the third wheel. Sometimes, my gut tells me she is flirting with him with her general body language and the way she makes faces at him. The fact that X was she was a wild chic at university just makes uneasy.
READ: Please Advice : Am Tired My Boss Use Me as S*x Machine, Sometimes R*pes Me in His Office
My husband doesn’t even seem to restrain her or himself, like I think a married man should. She hasn’t done anything overt. It is the nudging him in the ribs, the rubbing of his head or even gentle tugging of his beard that is making me go crazy. The way she laughs at his jokes; jokes that are not even funny. She is too damn relaxed in his presence.

She has even this nickname for him in their dialect. When my hubby got a promotion and we all went out to eat, X came to the restaurant dressed to the nines and wearing this incredible fragrance. Then she gave him this bear hug that I felt lasted for too long. I don’t feel all this is normal but I don’t want to be a prude.
READ: TRUE CONFESSION: I had SEX with my daughter’s BOYFRIEND ….. up till NOW

I know she is not seeing anyone, she would tell me if so. Her life has been a bit scattered so she hasn’t cultivated a serious relationship. She’s prettier than I am and I know she shouldn’t have any problem attracting guys.
What can I do? I can’t just cut her off abruptly or ban her from her house. It would be odd and besides, we have a lot of mutual friends. To be fair to my husband, he hasn’t given me any tangible reason to be suspicious but you know what they say about naija men.

I don’t know of anytime they have been in the same place without my knowledge. But he is not helping matters the way he always invites her for events or compliments her or things like that.
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I can’t confront husband because I may be making a mountain out of a mole-hill. The last thing I want is to be called a jealous wife. I can’t tell my parents because they never supported my marriage from the outset (tribal issues) and I want to prove them wrong.
I already have enough stress from work and trying to start a family. I feel so worn out. What do I do?





19 Nov 2016 | 08:35
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All your fault.
19 Nov 2016 | 08:47
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To the married ones, they are in the best position to advice u
19 Nov 2016 | 08:54
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I don't know what to say to that but if na me I go confront my husband ni o nd talk to him let him know that am not okay with thier friendship
19 Nov 2016 | 09:12
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how is this her fault @froshberry-2
19 Nov 2016 | 09:13
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Can't she read the writing by the wall?? Imagine the frequent visitations to their house every now and then, and as posted above, she noticed she flirts with her hubby with the body language and her hubby compliments her every now and then, without him restraining and cautioning her. Now she said it herself that her friend is more beautiful. Let her read the encrypted message! @jummybabe I won't even blink a eye if i surf the net a week or month later and i read the news about the same woman, that her so called friend has eloped with your husband! Its gonna be disheartning!
19 Nov 2016 | 09:23
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Sorry,No advice oo..cause am not married
19 Nov 2016 | 09:34
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Oya were are the married once come and answer
19 Nov 2016 | 10:57
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Simple my teacher one told me d are 3ways to make peace .consult .consulidate nd confront mak she aply am
19 Nov 2016 | 14:45
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I think you should watch them closely enough before confronting your husband. maybe there is nothing going on between them
20 Nov 2016 | 01:32
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ban her from coming to your house or you'll lose him... You never had a child so it'll be better for him.
20 Nov 2016 | 04:28
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hmmmmm
20 Nov 2016 | 08:57
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comment reserved till after my wedding
20 Nov 2016 | 12:15
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M Speechless
21 Nov 2016 | 04:13
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My sister dey have gone far already, the only Thing u need to do nw is to first tell ur hubby ur mind and hear wat he has to say after dat the way he behave will anwser ur question. And again run away from dat cheap harlot break anything connecting both of u. If she starts complaning dat u are insulting her den go and tell her parents wat she is doing dat u dnt lyk it. U say u are 30 and she is two years older than u dat means she is 32 dnt u no dat she is nt happy to see u married before her. U are married my dear and u have something to lose bt she has nothing to lose. So my dear wakeup. Am 22 years and happilly married wit two kids. Dnt let anytin destroy ur home if sometin is bordeing u tel ur husband.thank u..
22 Nov 2016 | 12:20
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Well i think your X has something going on with your husband
23 Nov 2016 | 08:54
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