[b]Ladies, once you get engaged to the man of
your dreams, your next step is to win over the
woman who is first in his heart, his mother.
Many will say this is nearly impossible, especially
if he is a mummy's boy and will do anything she
says. How the wife gets along with the his
mother will determine many things.
Here are five ways to make your mother-in-law
love you:
1. Be a GREAT cook....just not greater than her.[/b]
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Every mother believes she is the best chef to her
children and she needs you to appreciate this
fact and respect it.
If the subject of food comes up, concede and
say you're cooking is good but can't match up to
hers. This may not be the case, but you letting
her know her cooking is still valued in her son's
eyes will make her see you as a friend, not
competitor.
That way, she won't feel a need to bring down
your cooking skills all the time.
[b]2. Open a line of communication with her.[/b]
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Your mother-in-law doesn't have to be your best
friend or closest confidant but she can be
involved in some part of your life.
Talk to her about things: it could be as minor as
which cake to have at your wedding or even as
major as a personal problem you have. Study her
and see how well she deals with similar issues
with your son and talk to her about them. She
will feel valued and important for you to come to
her.
However, if you know she likes to expose and
escalate your problems, tell her as little as
possible and make sure it's things that don't
count. Let her think she knows it all while you
stay a step ahead
[b]3. Schedule regular visits to her.[/b]
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Ultimately, the mother will feel like she is losing
her son and will feel lonely. This is why she may
reach out and want to come and sleep over and
other things you may not like.
Visiting her often with your husband or with the
kids will make her feel loved and like an
important part of your life. She will also be a
great baby sitter when you and your husband
need some time alone which will give her time to
bond with her children.
Being the one to visit her shows you care and
you don't want her to be the one chasing you
down. She will have respect for you.
[b]4. Pick your battles.[/b]
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You are bound to clash with your mother-in-law
over one thing or the other and when it happens,
you will feel a need to lash out and fight for
yourself but you need to pick your battles.
Let her win some battles so that when
something major comes up and you speak up,
what you say will have a lot of weight. Your
husband too will side you because he will notice
you don't always complain over everything.
She will also surprise you by ending the
argument after you talk, out of respect for you
[b]5. Indulge in a hobby she likes.[/b]
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Find out what your mother-in-law likes and get
involved in it. You may not like the hobby or be
interested in it, but ask her about it and find out
how she is doing.
If you are interested in it, let her teach you and
get more involved with it. This way you will bond
over something she loves and after some time,
her love for the hobby will also extend to you
and she will love you more.
