Hmmm, very traumatic condition indeed ........ Well, you made the first mistake by impregnanting your secretary out of your wife knowledge. But the thing is this, never throw out your first wife, even if your secretary dnt want to stay with her, she can gv u your child and go away. And mere looking at this, that secretary of yours is nt a gud woman for asking you to push out a woman like her and i tel u, if u ever marry her into that huz wit ur first wife, there wil be everlasting problem. Then finally, mak sure that she is truely pregnant and that you are the one responsible for the pregnancy. God help you.