I just got off a date with a girl I got
hooked up with by a mutual friend,
and I feel so low in spirit. Every thing
was going okay till she asked of my
age. I told her, and the expression on
her face was that of someone that had just seen an alien. Then came
the endless questions..."Why ain't you
married?" "Why don't you have a
steady girlfriend?" "Why are you still
single in your 30s?" Oh my God! I
wanted to shoot myself. Why is it a must for a young man or woman to be
married at a certain age in Africa?
Yea, I know there are loads of
benefits in marrying early. But what if
the individual in question has some
plans and has to sacrifice the beauty of early marriage for something else?
Why must you make that person feel
like there is something wrong with
him or her? I see it all the time online. Young
successful ladies like Linda Ikeji, Rita
Dominic, and Genevieve Nnaji get
insulted a lot. They post a picture on
Instagram, and then you see
comments like..."Go and marry!" "All these money doesn't mean anything
if you don't have a husband."
"Success without a man is useless."
Blah! Blah! And some more Blah!
Don't get me wrong, marriage is a
beautiful thing, but no one should marry solely because society sees it
as the thing to do at a certain age.
And no one should be looked down
on because he or she is not married
at the age society has set for such. Divorce rate is going through the roof
in the country. Married women are
sleeping around with no atom of guilt
in them it's scary. Married men openly
joke about their latest conquest and
how big her boobs are. I am not saying all these to make myself feel
better about being single. I am saying
all these to say that it is really
disturbing that society sees the single
man/woman of marriageable age
lower than all the people involved in the atrocities I mentioned above. We are all different with different
goals, and some situations might
have left some people single in their
30s and 40s. And to some, it might
just be a choice. Maybe the person
has weighed the advantages and disadvantages of marriage and feels
he/she would be distracted from his/
her chief goal in life if he/she marries
early. The person might have set '40'
as the age to marry. Or the person
doesn't even have marriage in the agenda at all. It is a freaking free
world. So, I ask, is this so big of a
deal? Is it a must to marry? http://
outoftheordinary101.blogspot.com.ng/2016
is-it-must-to-marry.html
