There are certain things attractive
people do that gets people drawn to
them. These are some of those things. File photo With these 5 simple tips, you can learn to
confidently flirt and project that same
magnetism, easily boosting your perceived
attractiveness. 1. Make a great first impression. Despite ongoing protests that first impressions
shouldn’t matter, there is little doubt that they
do. In fact, research consistently shows that
people tend to make snap judgments of
someone else’s physical attractiveness within
a single second! In non-romantic settings, such as school or work, you might have a
whopping 2-30 seconds to make your
impression. Make the most of this time by
always presenting your best self. People are
attracted to genuineness, so never pretend to
be someone you’re not, but always carry yourself with confidence and show off the best
you that you can be. After all, you never know
when or where you might meet your true love. 2. Be interesting. Humans tend to like to get lost in the crowd,
especially when they are feeling shy or
nervous. Yet the best way to instantly boost
your attractiveness is to be interesting! The
human brain thrives on novelty. It gets bored
quickly, and is always looking for new stimuli. Wear a favorite, unusual piece of clothing or
jewelry.
You can try the novelty approach for yourself.
The next time you are at a party or a boring
networking event, keep an ear open. Try to
count how many variations you hear of the same script: Nice to meet you. Where are you
from? Do you have kids? How quickly do
those people fade into the background,
becoming just another part of the scenery?
Listen to the people who are attracting others,
too. What are they talking about? Be ready to tell a story about yourself, or an event of the
day, or things that you find interesting — do you
like to cook? Hike? Read novels or
autobiographies?
Rather than indulging in the easy script, think
of something to say that is quirky, fun, or even off-the-wall. Breaking through the dullness will
spark people’s imaginations, and you may
suddenly be the most popular person in the
room. 3. Be available. Many people are afraid of coming across as
desperate or needy, so they compensate by
being aloof. Others think that their mere
presence at a party or event conveys their
desire to meet new people. Don’t try to read
other people’s minds, because you can’t! Unfortunately, people do not know your
intentions unless you express them.
Rather than standing alone in the corner,
approach someone who looks interesting (see
#2 above). Comment on how glad you are to
be there, and how much fun you are having meeting new people. While it won’t work on
everyone, communicating your availability
dramatically increases your perceived
attractiveness.
Watch your body language as well. Clutching
your cell phone or purse to your chest, crossing your arms, or tightly gripping a wine
glass in front of your stomach signal that you
are closed to making new connections.
Stuffing your hands in your pockets or hiding
them under your coat makes it difficult for
other people to open up to you. Both of these moves decrease your attractiveness.
To communicate availability, keep your torso
open and your hands in sight. Throw your
purse over your shoulder, put away your cell
phone, and gesture as you talk. These signals
show that you are available and interested in a connection, thereby increasing your
attractiveness. 4. Be interested. People’s favorite topic is generally themselves,
so a good listener always increases his or her
own attractiveness. Practice active listening
skills by repeating back what you understand
the person to have said and asking for
clarification or further details. 5. Be memorable. There is an old theater adage: “Always leave
them wanting more.” Rather than wearing out
your welcome and trailing off into idle, boring
dialogue, make your exit while you are still
being wildly interesting (#2 above). Your
conversation partner will be eager to see you again, in order to hear more of what you have
to say. Sticking in someone’s mind
automatically boosts your attractiveness in that
person’s eyes
