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I need ur advice fellow coolvallers????????by rhennyjay

I need ur advice fellow coolvallers????????by rhennyjay

By rhennyjay in 4 Sep 2015 | 10:00
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I broke up wif my bf around june cz e won't stop his old habits of drinking nd smoking but he really loves and cares for me and I got into another relationship so fast due to matchmaking from a friend,dat is. A fwend of mine hooked us up
But I think dz new guy has no feelings for me at all,,ever since we have been dating,its as if we are forcing ourselves to date cz of my fwend,he doesn't call me ,weneva I ask for d reason he isn't calling me he says he is broke,ok agreed,the first tym we met he was already asking for sex and I said no cz we were meeting for d 1st tym,he asked me out on my bdae cz e saw my pix on a fwend's dp dat ow e got to knw me.we soon started dating,I told him I changed his name to a pet name,nd I asked him to do d same e was lyk I don't fancy doze kinda things so I didn't say anything bouh dat again,,he uploads diff gals pix on his dp iffa ask him wu re dey?he eida say fwends at skul or ex gf..
He doesn't call me at all I always do d calling weneva I ve credit,sumtyms I wud wnt to test him me too I won't call truout a day d next day wud b expecting his calls buh none wud come in,so I have to kal me again
Sometyms ago e sed e doesn't lyk sending or receiving messages buh I was surprised wen I visited him d last tym nd e was playing football wif his fwends nd e kept his fones wif me,goin tru d fone,went to his messages nd saw a conversation message wif a gal,wen I confronted him e was lyk d gal is his ex,I sed agreed den wot z d love u all abt since u re nt dating again,e sed cz its true dat e loves ha,cz if e didn't tell ha dat den dat means e neva loved b4,tch I sed notin again e later apologised for makin me feel bad nd asked y I went tru his messages in d 1st place annoyed asked him to put password next tym on his fone.we forgot abt dat part while I went to skul a fwend of mine a guy collected my fone went to my whatsapp nd saw nd read tru our chat,e nw asked me dat em I sure dz guy is my bf or sum1 else cz derris ntin in our chat to showcase we re dating,infact dat most tyms we ve ntin to tok abt,no emotions or feelings,it as if we re casual fwends,e later went to my inbox nd was equally surprised dat none of his messages on my fone,e now tod me dat e doesn't tink d guy loves me mayb e only likes me as a fwend,didn't wanna tok abt it so I just tod him we jaz met so e sed okay,,


Am vewi confused,nd I rilly appreciate wen a guy makes me feel important as if em d only gal in d world nd I tink I'd better go for someone who has a crush on me rada dan d oda way round
.HhhMmm



Derris no love,no affection,no care,no emotion,nafin at all,ve talked to him severally nd e keeps on giving me flimsy excuses nd ve also tok to my fwend wu hooked us up,she alst toked wif him nd she kips on telling me dat e z a good guy,quite intelligent,mature,nice this nd that,

So I don't think I wanna go tru dz emotional trauma again,,enough of dz game,package,or whateva e tinks e z trying with me





So I want to break up wif him,move on wif my life,face my academics,cz I bliv I wud surely meet someone better,who wud love me nd take me as I am.................plz friends I need ur help????????????
4 Sep 2015 | 10:00
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Well u made d mistake in d first place,u see d@ ur fomer guy d@ z addicted to drinking nd smoking dnt u tnk u can help him change his life,do u even try to knw y he was addicted to it,u sud hav @ least try to change his life positively u knw.Nd d oda guy well sorry to say my sis I tnk u ar just wasting ur preciouse tym wt him.I wunt say more dan d@ d ball z wt u babe
4 Sep 2015 | 10:17
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Ehmmmm My ex bf we dated for two years nd e didn't change at all datz y I left him nd d kind of fwends e moves wif annoys me nd dey re d ones indulging him into doze things buh he isn't ready to change
4 Sep 2015 | 10:25
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He wil change wen u let him knw dat drinkn nd smokin iz bad if u luv im am sure u wil change is life.......
4 Sep 2015 | 10:38
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Have threatened him severally to at least scare him.....he might not drink tudae buh tumao u go c ham Dr again datz y I cud nt cope again
4 Sep 2015 | 10:45
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Well d first guy has bcom past coz u can't go back t him again, I ll advice u 4gt abt d second guy coz frm wat u said, I don't c an iota of ur love in him......u av t 4gt abt him N face ur studies. U still av a long way t go......wen d tym cums, d right guy ll come.....u deserve t b love n care 4
4 Sep 2015 | 11:28
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I understand ya pains gurl, well since you've endured enough wif d 1st guy and he didn't change, think you've tried enough then. As for the 2nd guy, tell him abt I, that he doesn't care abt you bla bla bla and all the stuffs. SEe if he changes. If he changes totally, if he jst change for a while that means you are on his fuckee's list. Mhnn?! You also should be able to tell if he truly love you isn't it? And I think you don't love him also, jst trying to cope wid him coz of ya last break-up Check it out!!.
4 Sep 2015 | 12:37
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Thanks dear@mray Will do just dat
4 Sep 2015 | 12:52
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Hmmmmmmm@Richie-bill I can't really say I love him buh at least I care abt him.I always look forward to hearing from him.... Sometimes he wud b online for hours unless I greet him first.b4 he notices am online I've tried talking abt it to him on several occasions....nothing good comes out of it So I think I'd better follow my heart nd break up with him Thanks hunnnnnn
4 Sep 2015 | 13:00
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Wc gurl nd remember 'no guy worth ur tears' @rhennyjay
4 Sep 2015 | 13:08
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U better move on cux i dont tink dat d guy loves u ooooo
4 Sep 2015 | 13:22
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Abi ooo@mray Tenkz. TaIwo
4 Sep 2015 | 13:38
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@rhennyjay, i tink u alrdy knw wat to do. To b frank, d guy has no feelings watsoeva towards u n frm wat u said i dnt tink his even ready to gv both of u a try. Matchmaking in d 1st place, i no dey gbadun am. It myt work for some bt nt all, n in ur case it doesnt seem to b working. If u want to hear d truth abt a guy, u have to ask a fellow guy, n dat ur malefrnd in sch just told u d truth even thou he didnt come out straight. Baby, dnt waste ur time and love on some1 dat isnt worth it. You are beautiful n dia are guys readying to ask u out, bt ur parol with dis guy dey hinder dem frm coming to u. Abeg just forget d guy. Hope i didn't sound harsh?...lol
4 Sep 2015 | 15:04
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U don't expect him to change just like that, u said he will stp drinkn today the tomorrow he will continue !bt Don't u think that the first step?.
4 Sep 2015 | 15:33
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@rhennyjay ..both of them ar not meant for you.. & im sure u kno that world population: 7,026,180,003. Just incase someone starts to feel important
4 Sep 2015 | 16:07
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Indeed as ur name is u re really wise Harsh u weren't harsh u jaz tod d blunt truth my dear Phenkz hunnnnn@wyse-one
4 Sep 2015 | 17:08
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@smoby for two good years No iota of changes Can't go on wif such cz I hate it in d 1st instance buh was tinking I cud change him buh I don't he is ready sneh
4 Sep 2015 | 17:10
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Naso my guy @temisaintkenz Phenkz everybody for ur pieces of advice Really appreciate I knew u guys can't let me down datz y I brought it to u guys for help Tenkz everybody who has contributed in one way or d oda
4 Sep 2015 | 17:15
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@rhennyjay let's chat in a camera on 08062893518
4 Sep 2015 | 18:58
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4rm d post, ah tink u've already answered d qstn urslf on d last paragraph my dear, jux 4lo ur hrt, u actually deserve d best n ought to b happy always, buh den, bin in a relationshp wer der aint no happinez is jux so abnormal as such u jux av 2 quit, besides ah dnt fancy all dx matchmaking bull crap of a r/ship myslf.. lyk seriously @rhennyjay i dnt see any future btwn u nd dat guy so jux mk use of d exit door, jux as @Mray ritely said wen d tym cums ur God sent guy will certainly locate u, You deserve d vry best pls.. its well my dear. #Peace
4 Sep 2015 | 19:20
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Well.... Dere is no advice 2 give u aqain.... Cos u made it really obvious in ur post dat u re done with d second guy nd u want 2 move on... Wat advice is dere 2 give aqain? D decision u made is good.... I just dnt understand why u would stay in dat relationship dis long after all u've seen him do nd act out... Comon gal! Where is ur female ego? I cnt take such 4rm a guy... U dnt call me? Forget it...
4 Sep 2015 | 21:21
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@Dexterity is dat ur own way of advising?
4 Sep 2015 | 21:22
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Hmmmm
5 Sep 2015 | 01:32
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Thenkz@donmikie Rilly appreciate
5 Sep 2015 | 04:40
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Lolz@tenniebenson Don't wanna b seen as a gal who z proud nd so full of herself datz y All d same thank u
5 Sep 2015 | 04:42
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Uhmm @Rhennyjay u re welcome.... But most tymz no matter aw much u love a guy.. Dnt let it affect u extra ordinarily.... Dnt make it look like u re desperate 2 stay in a relationship... Dere so many guyz out dere who knws d worth of a lady... Nd 2 get such guyz.. U need 2 proof urself dat u re very important nd shldnt be trampled on by any guy.. Dats why I alwyz say.. Love with ur brain nt ur heart... When u get married dat is when ur heart shld come in place...
5 Sep 2015 | 05:06
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I wil advice u 2 much on wif ur lyf anoda man dat wil care for u is on d way..
5 Sep 2015 | 15:26
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You're wlcm @rhennyjay, jez break up wid him, he doesn't deserve sm1 lyk you.
5 Sep 2015 | 17:05
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Thanks everyone. Really appreciate
5 Sep 2015 | 17:45
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Ur vry much welcum my dear @rhennyjay wsh u all d vry bst pls.
6 Sep 2015 | 06:44
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Dnt go wastin ur tym wit sum1 dat doesn't av anytin 4 u, dnt let sum1 control .i feel dat ur frnd is controlin u, nt becos ur frnd said he is intelligent bla bla bla wil make u wast ur precious tym wit him
6 Sep 2015 | 16:45
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I will advice u to face ur studies, and 4get it, and move on wit ur studies, bcux dia is tym 4 everything, loving and caring 1 is out dia waiting.
6 Sep 2015 | 19:07
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