Having a hard time getting over someone
who doesn’t love you back the way you love
them? Find out how to let go of someone
you love by hating them.
One sided love is truly the most painful
types of love you’ll have to deal with in your
life.
It’s demeaning, insulting and so painful, it
makes you wonder why love even exists.
I’ve been there too.
How to let go of someone you love
I remember a time when I was in love with
this girl a few years ago.
She really liked me too.
We weren’t dating yet because of a few
complications, but we had every intention of
letting the world know about our love when
the time was right.
She was away on a vacation for a couple of
weeks and ended up having a fling with
another guy.
When she told me about it, I was angry and
really upset.
But she thought I was being unreasonable.
“Listen, I’m not your girlfriend, and you’re
just my friend. You really have no right to
tell me how I need to live my life,” she
yelled at me when I got upset with her.
A lot of angry words were exchanged in
that conversation, and that was it. She
didn’t call me back ever again, even when
she got back home from her vacation.
I tried calling her and emailing her to no
avail. She was just ignoring me like I didn’t
exist. [Read: Why does love hurt so much
when it goes bad?]
About a week after she returned from her
vacation, she answered my call.
She said so many things. And all I could do
was listen to her with my ripped out heart in
my hand.
That was the last time we ever spoke.
Getting over someone who will never love
you again
Heartbreaks are painful, and it hurts a lot
more when you feel helpless. Ever felt like
the harder you tried, the more the person
you loved slipped away from you? It’s like
squeezing grains of sand in your palm.
It isn’t a man thing to cry, but it hurt so
bad that my life came to standstill. I was
bitter, angry, and so helpless. I just didn’t
know what I had to do. Should I just stay a
friend all over again and pretend like
nothing ever happened between us? I
couldn’t do that. It would have been too
painful. I had to let her go.
Sometimes, you just have to let go if you
want to move on. And the easiest way to do
that is by replacing all the love you have for
someone with hate. It’s not the safest way,
but it’ll definitely help you.
Letting go of someone you love by hating
them
If you’ve tried everything else and still have
a hard time getting over someone you love,
perhaps hate is the only alternative.
#1 Get an answer. This is important, but not
always easy to get. Find out why this person
doesn’t like you anymore, or find out why
they stopped liking you. Getting an answer
can give your mind the rest it needs, even if
it hurts. But if you can’t get any answers,
don’t make your own assumptions. Think of
it as something that wasn’t meant to be and
let go.
#2 Accept the lost cause. Don’t live in
denial. Accept that you can never get this
person. You’ve lost. Sometimes, we can’t win
it all and you’ll just have to accept it. Just
like dealing with an addiction, you need to
accept that there’s a problem before trying
to overcome it.
#3 Have self respect. Love takes away any
self respect you may have. And while that
may seem cute when both of you love each
other, it isn’t so sweet when love is one
sided. Stop trailing your lost love. And don’t
go dedicating silly love songs on youtube.
You may feel like you’re pouring your heart
out, but the person you like may think you’re
an annoying pest with no life. Have self
respect and respect this person’s space.
Sometimes, nothing you do can ever change
the way someone feels about you.
#4 Keep your memories. Remember how
your heart was ripped in two by this person.
If you want to let go of someone you love
by hating them, you need to keep those bad
memories alive. If you have any self
respect, you should feel insulted every time
you recollect the way you were treated by
this person. [
#5 Avoid this person. Almost always, the
person you like may start to avoid you.
After all, they don’t care about you. But
even if this person doesn’t avoid you and
decides to pretend like nothing ever
happened, start avoiding them. How can you
behave like a friend when you clearly have
feelings for someone? If you don’t avoid
this person, you’ll only feel worse. It’s not
easy to avoid someone you love, but you
have no other option here.
#6 Avoid hearing any news. Don’t keep in
touch with this person, be it online or
offline. If you have common friends, avoid
them too. Avoid checking their facebook
page every evening, unless you want to stay
a loser for the rest of your life. The person
you like doesn’t care about you. How long
are you going to keep them on a pedestal
and worship them like a loser?
#7 Keep yourself occupied. This person you
love so much is not even thinking of you.
You mean nothing to them. Admit it. You’re
the only one pining about your lost love.
This person you like has forgotten you
already. You think of this person a hundred
times a day, and in all probability, the
person you like may not even think of you
once a week. How does that make you feel?
Don’t you think you need to move on?
Do something else, anything at all as long as
you can meet other people who appreciate
you for who you are.
#8 Get angry. Get bitter. Get loco. Hate
this person for the way they treated you.
Don’t feel pity or weakness. Instead, feel
angered and pained. How could someone you
cared for so much, treat you like you were
dirt and walk all over you? Doesn’t this
person even have a heart?
#9 Listen to hate songs. Youtube is filled
with hate playlists. Pick the songs you like
and explode them in your ears. Let each
song you play remind you of how messed up
you are right now because of the way the
person you liked treated you. Force yourself
to get over all the negative emotions.
And after listening to a whole playlist of
angry songs, listen to one happy song that
always makes you feel good about yourself.
And step out of the house like nothing
happened and go meet someone new! [Read:
Why are rebound relationships the best
thing to have?]
#10 Every time you close your eyes. Every
time this person comes in your mind, force
yourself to see only their negative side.
Remember how they laughed at you or
treated you like a child when you pleaded to
be taken back. Replacing all the love you
have with hate or anger can sometimes be
more easier than just trying to overcome
the affection you have for someone. [
After all, hate too is just as powerful as
love. As long as you know how to replace all
the love with hate, you’ll know how to get
over someone you love.
But let the hate you build up be a temporary
thing. Turn your love to hate, and eventually
when you’re feeling stronger, turn that hate
to indifference. It’ll be easier because you
don’t really hate the one you like, you’re just
feeling bitter and lonely right now.
By turning your love to hate, you can
overcome the helplessness and
overwhelming love you have for someone
and learn how to let go of someone you love
at the same time. And when you feel ready,
you’ll learn to be indifferent too.
