One of the most common
questions we’re asked is by people who don’t know how to act around their crush.
Maybe they get nervous and shy, or become extra clingy.
With any crush, the goal is always to become more, and
the only way you’re going to do that is if you know how to act like a normal person
around them! Here are our tips!
1. First of all, take a deep
breath. No matter how much
you like someone or how
intimidating they are,
remember one important
thing-they are a person just
like you. They aren’t perfect
specimens to be
worshipped, no matter how
hot they are. And most
importantly, remember how
awesome YOU are, and how
lucky they would be to even
talk to you for ten minutes.
Once you switch your
thinking to this kind of
mindset, it will be a lot easier
to interact with the object of
your affection.
2. If your problem is that you
just don’t know what to say
or how to strike up a
conversation with your
crush, start small. Think of
anything that you have in
common with them and
make the most out of it. If
you’re at school, ask a
question about a class you
share or if you have mutual
friends, bring up something
about them. The goal is to
establish a bond and a
jumping off point. From
here, based on their
response, you can steer the
conversation to different
topics. A long, heart to heart
convo might not happen
overnight, especially if you
are virtual strangers.
3. Use technology as your
wing man. These days, we’re
all connected whether we
like it or not. This means that
your crush is probably your
friend on Facebook, or you
follow them on Twitter or
instagram. Interacting with
someone from behind a
computer screen is a lot less
stressful than walking up to
them out of the blue. Start
making your digital presence
known. “Like” some of their
photos and comment on a
status or two. Retweet
things that they say online
that you like. Or, if you’re
feeling particularly ballsy
shoot them an email or say
hello on g-chat. Sometimes
you’ve got to be a bit
aggressive to be noticed
these days!
4. Take no for an answer.
There’s being aggressive
and then there is being
annoying and psycho. If you
try reaching out to your
crush online and they don’t
respond after a few
attempts, or they delete or
block you, back off. If you’ve
tried reaching out to them in
person and they always cut
the conversation short, they
might be trying to tell you
that they aren’t interested.
5. SMILE. You know when
you like someone so much
that sometimes you act like
you hate them? Yeah. Don’t
do that. I know you’re
nervous and you didn’t
mean to ignore them when
they smiled at you, or that
you were too freaked out
when they called you to
answer the phone, but
you’ve got to take control
over your nerves. When you
treat your crush like crap,
they aren’t going to know
it’s because you are secretly
madly in love with them…
they are going to think you
can’t stand them. Smile,
remain open and calm and
stop playing games. You’ll
get much better results with
your crush when you keep it
real.
Good luck!
- Source: welovedates.com [hupso]
