AGE they say doesn't define maturity or wisdom but that is not excusable for absolutely behaving like a kid. I'm sure you have seen at least one "childish" guy even though he's through with his degree but still thinks and behaves like a pry 2 school boy
Being mature means a man is able to care of himself and approaches problems with a calm and collected manner. He understands the importance of being a man, being independent and values what he has. One doesn't necessarily have to be rich before he's being regarded as matured, but needs to have a good orientation about money making and ability to influence others to the best of his capabilities
Sadly, the fact that you could admit to see a part of yourself doing one of these things even till now does not give you the audacity to throw punches at me because we are ALL Evolving and we have some maturing to do.
Without further ado, let's get started
[b] 1. Writing Yourself Off Because Of Your Financial Status [/b]
Many guys believe that if you consistently make money you will get the lady you desire. This is complete bogus. Your money can however get you a money-grubbing lady that would zoom off when your cash flow no longer meet her needs
The notion that every lady wants money has driven many dudes into developing low self esteem; and acting like ladies puppets. As a matter of fact, no matter how empty your pocket is, no lady can ridicule you unless you give her the chance to. Remember empty pocket is NOT empty destiny
When a guy lacks self confidence and holds himself in low self esteem, he sees money as the only manipulation tool to get the lady he desires
2. Publishing Your Life Plans On Social Media
Having your friends informed about your plans is not a bad idea but it should be done moderately on social sites.
there're a guy who keeps updates of his movements on social sites, That is, he keeps travel, exam and food updates. You see updates like,
Exam Loading 30% ..50%... 100%;
GNS 201 taken down, Com 101 here I come; :mail:
In two hour's time, I will be in 400L .... 400L here I come with swag;
Ibadan loading 10%.. Oyo Loading 30%.. Akure Loading.. 100% :yes:
Haba !! bros you are no more getting younger for Christ's sake. Passing your messages this way isn't a bad idea,
Another step forward in my academics, Lord I thank you;
Final lap, this calls for celebration;
Lord see me through as I embark on this journey;
Isn't it better that way ?
3. I too Know
A mature guy needs to be polite, respectful, considerate and attentive. Even if you have vast knowledge in Queen's English, do not aim it at using it to mock others. A mature guy respects other people's way of talking knowing fully well that your fluency is NOT a true measure of intelligence.
A negatively minded immature dude will always be complaining and seeing the bad side to everything by antipathy felling that is expressed by condemnation especially when other people are trying to communicate their mind lucidly. Just as we have some self acclaimed mature skull head yet dummies who have no meaningful contribution to make but condemn every write-ups
4. Lying To Ladies
So As To Get Liked
The notion that many ladies fall easily for liars doesn't mean you should you should also employ lies to win a lady's heart.
A dude with ambition, distinctive set of goals for himself and holds himself with high self esteem will not be deterred from other people's belief and will not be easily pressured into doing things that he does not believe in.
I personally believe that when a dude has low self esteem, swag-less and does have what it takes to prove his worth, he resort to lying about what he's not just to get liked. I see no reason why I should lie to a lady about being in 400L when I'm currently schooling in a Polytechnic. Ooooh common this is pure discombobulation.. You have to be confident in yourself, who you are, stay true to your word and true to yourself
5. Generally Acting Like An Idi.ot
I detest guys who act like idiots when they spot a lady. At 25, a lady passes and you have to show your stupidity by hissing or shouting. ''see ukwu", or ''[see ynash''.. Isn't that foolishness ?
You have to bring out that your Q5 or Ipad just the moment you spot a lady and that's when you start singing, doesn't that make you a plain idiot ?
The truth is, you don't have to flaunt your electronic gadgets to show how sophisticated you are. Your worth can be proven even with a torchlight phone of N2, 000
If you are 25yrs and above you still find yourself doing this, then it's a clear indication that you are a certified idiot. Even if you seem immature inwardly, you don't have to display it outside
6. Sagging Of Trouser
In my personal view, men that are guilty of this are not worth my respect. I just can't fathom why or how a grown up man would put his trouser beneath his buttocks and go about sagging and prancing around the streets.
