According to a recent report by Dailystar, there’s only one real way you can improve your bedroom skills. A sexpert say to make sure you’re not being “dumb at s*x” all you need to do is pay attention to your partner.
Nicole Prause, who works as a principal investigator at the Sexual Psychophysiology and Affective Neuroscience Lab at the University of California, explained:
“There’s no such thing as someone who is ‘good at s*x’."
She continued: “It completely depends on your partner.
“For example, if you’re someone who loves to be pooped on, I’m never going to be a good partner for you.
“That’s just not in my repertoire.”
So aside from knowing the basic fundamentals of what goes where, the one thing you should be doing is listening to your lover.
Getting to know their body as well as sexual turn ons and tastes will enhance their pleasure between the sheets – ultimately making you look like a better lover.
And previous research backs up Nicole’s advice.
According to a study published in the American Sociological Review, the more times women had s*x with a partner the more likely they were to orgasm whether it was in a long-term relationship or as a casual hook-up.
Also the ladies’ sexual enjoyment “dramatically” increased after the first romp, meaning that “partner-specific learning” is key to boosting satisfaction in the sack.
But don’t just keep communication down to grunts and moans because it’s possible that your partner won’t really know what they mean.
Nicole told Science of Us: “If you like something they’re doing, say: ‘I like that.’
“Use your words.
"If you can be more specific about what you like about it, do."
She added: “Don’t drop the big bomb first time.
“If you really like being choked with a rope, that’s kind of dangerous.
"Maybe don’t start with that, but talk about it eventually.
"Start with something more common as a way of building trust.”
