To my brothers;
carry your wife to the bed when she
sleeps off in the sitting room, make her
feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a
2yrs old girl at times, that's why women
behave childish or silly at times.
You may have an argument with your
wife and the next thing is that you will
see her putting her bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a
divorce, she is just being childish, she
simply wants you to hold her, look her in
the eyes and say "I am sorry for the
argument". That's women for you. Every
brother needs to study in the university of women before getting married, read
books about them, learn what the Bible
says about them and you will hardly have
a problem with them.
Though there may still be some
challenges, because you're both from different background and your
imperfections are bound to stand.
So, read books about marriage, an ideal
home, child upbringing, importance of
marriage and the likes. Don't just jump
into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you will have problems.
How many men can tolerate their wives
nagging let alone shouting? It's said that,
you should be quiet when your spouse is
angry, when one person is fire, the other
person should be water... Brothers, when your wife steps on your
feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let
your eyes turn red, just smile at her, if
she did it intentionally, she is just playing
with you, if she did it mistakenly, its not
her fault. So why shout at her over every small mistake? As a man learn to ignore
some things, don't be petty.
Some men are feminist; Do "hide and
seek" with your wife, sing poems for your
wife in the garden or inside the house,
even if she is teasing you. Assist her in the house chores, pound yam, fetch
water, don't make her look like your maid.
Bathe together, wake her up for prayers,
swim with her if it's available, cook
together, teach her how to cook if she
doesn't know how to cook. Cooking is not the ticket to Paradise. It's not only a
feminine duty...
Use blind folds to cover her eyes and
tickle her, scare her at times, call her from
work/ school, text her, write "I love you" in
a small note and put it under her pillow or in her purse or in her bathroom or in her
cosmetics box or inside her cupboard.
Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her
and play with her hair. Always tell her,
she's beautiful and that you're happy to
have her as your partner. All these are part of being
romantic...When a woman tells you that
you are not romantic. It means you are
not doing all these things, its not the
romance in the bedroom she is talking
about. That's why, you brothers have to study "women's language" it's a 10 year
course. Lol.
Now sisters, it's also part of your duty to
be romantic too. Your shyness shouldn't
get to your marital life and that doesn't
mean you should be shy to express your love to your husband.
Send sweet text messages to your
husband at work, sometimes even if you
are in the room discussing with your
husband, still be chatting with him on
social media (Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo,bbm etc) even though he is
right in front of you, it's fun and romantic!
You should be chatting with your
husband, not other men on social media
networks.
Buy flowers for him. When eating, give him the biggest meat. At times, bake
cake for him to surprise him. Sisters, use
your soft voice to sing for him, be
creative, a poem like (twinkle, twinkle
lovely spouse, how I wonder what you
are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart). Sing poems for
him, no shyness is allowed.
Don't just be welcoming your husband
with an angry face because there is no
money in the house, God is our provider.
Don't welcome your husband with your body smelling maggi, don't only play with
your husband when he receives his
salary. Welcome him with a warm hug
always, and when he is going to work,
pray to God to keep him safe and for him
to be successful. Support him, advise him, wipe his tears,
be grateful to him, it's not easy to be a
man, when you see his faith waxing cold,
encourage him, don't threaten him that
you will seek for divorce, don't compare
him with other men, buy him gifts , wash his clothes, sing for him, praise him in a
way that he wouldn't think of an
alternative, be the best cook, wash his
car if u have the time, dress him up,
pamper him when he is sick. Wake him
with a peck and don't complain about his snoring habit.
Let kiss be the messenger between you.
Read books on intimacy, don't learn it
from what you see in movies.. Most of
what you see there are not real. Call your
husband pet names. Though you can also call him by his name even if he is
20yrs older than you, as far as he is
comfortable with it.
Remember that, God said, men are the
protectors and maintainers of women. So
respect him and honour him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of
roses but a bed of sacrifice. It's said that,
there is nothing better for two people
who love each other than marriage. To
fall in love is a disease and its cure is to
marry the person one is in love with. Love is when you take away the feeling, the
passion and the romance and you find
out you still care for that person.
Finally, married men, divide your nights
into 3: one for yourself(sleeping), one for
your wife and one for your Lord.. That's the best night one can ever have.
MAY GOD GIVE YOU ALL THE BEST IN
MARRIAGE
