Many people have often said that
flattery wouldn’t get you anywhere.
But I refuse to agree to that – the thing,
is you didn’t do it well or maybe you
just don’t know how to flatter people!
Don’t worry your little head about how to learn it. It’s quite easier than you
think you. You just have to be truthful
with whatever you wanna say, or at
least, look very truthful about it. Women love flattery. But none of them
will come out openly to tell you.
Women can keep secrets for the
whole of eternity. There’s a story I
heard very recently. A big family with
about seven kids won the American Visa Lottery. With or without winning
the Lottery, they were already
successful – the last kid in the house
was in the University. As it is the
tradition, the family were required to
take a DNA test. Guess what? All the kids failed the tests except the last
child, who is in the University. What
probably shocked me the most is that
the marriage was well over 35 years!
Just imagine that.
Anyways, back to our discussion. If you’re waiting for a woman to tell you
what she thinks, you might as well go
ahead and boil a stone. When it melts,
she will tell you. She will never tell
you. You can only read it from her
eyes. In as much as her lips tell lies, her eyes will say the truth.
Here are tips you might need: 1. Before you give her any
compliment, rehearse it in your head.
And for the love of God, whenever
she’s talking, listen very well oh! I
know you don’t care, you just wanna
get to the best part. But if your ass isn’t careful, that might not be quite
work out. So, one key thing is listening. And
when i say listen, I mean look into her
eyes, smile while you listen to her
complain or whine about something.
When you listen very patiently, it says
to her that you care about her very much. So, listen! 2. Comment on what she’s saying.
Say stuff like ‘Oh! Really’, ‘My
goodness’, ‘That’s horrible’, ‘I can’t
imagine that happening to me’, ‘So
sorry my dear, next time you know
how to handle such situation’, etc. And for the flattery part, make sure all
attention is on her when you’re about
to say it. Make sure you go for
something private about her – like her
nose, her eyes(the eyes work well all
the time), her lips (works good also), her hair, her bag, her shoes are
secondary because when it later gets
down to when you’re together in bed,
you can buttress your point about her
having lovely formed nose even if it
looks like it occupies a chunk of her face. Make it an habit of commenting on her
lips. Tell her how seductive and pouty
they’re. The most important about
flattery is to say it with all sincerity
because women can read when you’re
being truthful and when you’re not. One last thing: don’t you ever ever
EVER EVER!!! ever ever give her a
compliment when her mood is down.
When she’s in a wrong mood, let her
be. The best you can do is care, send
her simple caring messages but some folks will suggest you leave her totally. But if na Naija babe, she go tell
you say why you leave am wen
she dey hurt and sad! Just be precise and mostly truthful
though.