To All Ladies Out There, I Say
Please Have A Side Boyfriend! After reading toke makinwa's book
"on becoming" I'm of the idea that if
toke had had a back up plan, a guy
she could count on if her boyfriend at
that time maje(later ex husband) was
in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her
serious and respected her more.. I've been there where I gave my all
into a relationship and was very loyal
to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating
he decided I wasn't good enough for
him, and left me stranded, it wasn't
funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored
the signs and also ignored guys that
would or might have made me more
happier than he ever made me. A friend of mine started dating a guy,
and she got to realize he was
cheating on her, and not only was he
cheating but with a girl so young,
when my friend confronted him, this
guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend
saw all the evidences he still blamed
her, and she asked me what she did
wrong, all she ever did was love and
give him all of her, she ignored all
guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs. Then another of my friend met up
with a guy and ohh she fell for his
charm, this my friend has had a fair
share in the heart break department,
her heart has been broken not once,
twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met
a guy and he loves me with his all,
babe he wants to marry me and babe
thank God for me" I got to admit I was
happy for her and in fact I thank God
on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I
tap into her good luck and believe
someday I'd also meet a guy who
would love me as much as her guy
did, little did I know the guy was
nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy
who is a disgrace to other guys...this
guy impregnated my friend and made
her father chase her out of the house,
with nowhere to go she moved in with
him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls,
cheats on my friend even in her
condition, lodge in different hotels
with different girls, and whenever she
confronts him he denies it to her face,
and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that
when he greets me good morning I go
out to make sure its really morning",
and I'm sure we all know its wrong for
a pregnant lady to think, but oh my
friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole
and was loyal. And this makes me wonder is it wrong
for ladies to be loyal in their
relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall
in love and give you her all?, is it a
crime for ladies to do all just to
please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?.
and my answers to these questions is
just for ladies to have side
boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you
won't have the fear of the main guy
waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the
heart attack of thinking of what your
boyfriend is doing at the moment, and
you won't be so involved in the life of
your boyfriend for him to tell you you
are choking him or think less of you.
