FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET
MARRIED
FOR OUR MEN:
Carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps
off in the sitting room, make her feel like a
baby at times. The truth is, every woman
wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at
times, that's why women behave childish or
silly at times.
You may have an argument with your wife
and the next thing is that you will see her
putting her bags outside the house, it
doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce,
she is just being childish, she simply wants
you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say
"I am sorry for the argument".
That's women for you. Every brother needs
to study in the university of women before
getting married, read books about them,
learn what the Bible says about them and
you will hardly have a problem with them.
Though there may still be some challenges,
because you're both from different
background and your imperfections are
bound to stand.
So, read books about marriage, an ideal
home, child upbringing, importance of
marriage and the likes. Don't just jump into
marriage with an empty head about
matrimony, you will have problems.
How many men can tolerate their wives
nagging let alone shouting? It's said that,
you should be quiet when your spouse is
angry, when one person is fire, the other
person should be water.
Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet
intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your
eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it
intentionally, she is just playing with you, if
she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So
why shout at her over every small mistake?
As a man learn to ignore some things, don't
be petty. Some men are feminist; Do "hide
and seek" with your wife, sing poems for
your wife in the garden or inside the house,
even if she is teasing you.
Assist her in the house chores, pound yam,
fetch water, don't make her look like your
maid. Bathe together, wake her up for
prayers, swim with her if it's available, cook
together, teach her how to cook if she
doesn't know how to cook. Cooking is not
the ticket to Paradise. It's not only a
feminine duty.
Use blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle
her, scare her at times, call her from work/
school, text her, write "I love you" in a small
note and put it under her pillow or in her
purse or in her bathroom or in her
cosmetics box or inside her cupboard. Kiss
her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play
with her hair. Always tell her, she's beautiful
and that you're happy to have her as your
partner.
All these are part of being romantic...When
a woman tells you that you are not romantic.
It means you are not doing all these things,
its not the romance in the bedroom she is
talking about. That's why, you brothers have
to study "women's language" it's a 10 year
course.
FOR LADIES:
It is part of your duty to be romantic too.
Your shyness shouldn't get to your marital
life and that doesn't mean you should be
shy to express your love to your husband.
Send sweet text messages to your husband
at work, sometimes even if you are in the
room discussing with your husband, still be
chatting with him on social media
(Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo, bbm etc)
even though he is right in front of you, it's
fun and romantic! Discuss how lovely he is
on your facebook timeline, this will trip him
a lot.
You should be chatting with your husband,
not other men on social media networks.
Buy flowers for him. When eating, give him
the biggest meat. At times, bake cake for
him to surprise him. Ladies, use your soft
voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem
like (twinkle, twinkle lovely spouse, how I
wonder what you are, up above my world
so high, like a diamond in my heart).
Sing poems for him, no shyness is allowed.
Don't just be welcoming your husband with
an angry face because there is no money in
the house, God is our provider. Don't
welcome your husband with your body
smelling maggi, don't only play with your
husband when he receives his salary.
Welcome him with a warm hug always, and
when he is going to work, pray to God to
keep him safe and for him to be successful.
Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be
grateful to him, it's not easy to be a man,
when you see his faith waxing cold,
encourage him, don't threaten him that you
will seek for divorce, don't compare him
with other men, buy him gifts, wash his
clothes, sing for him, praise him in a way
that he wouldn't think of an alternative, be
the best cook, wash his car if u have the
time, dress him up, pamper him when he is
sick.
Wake him with a peck and don't complain
about his snoring habit.
Let kiss be the messenger between you.
Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from
what you see in movies..
Most of what you see there are not real. Call
your husband pet names. Though you can
also call him by his name even if he is 30yrs
older than you, as far as he is comfortable
with it.
Remember that, God said, men are the
protectors and maintainers of women. So
respect him and honour him even if he is
younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of
roses but a bed of sacrifice. It's said that,
there is nothing better for two people who
love each other than marriage.
To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to
marry the person one is in love with. Love is
when you take away the feeling, the passion
and the romance and you find out you still
care for that person.
Finally, married men, divide your nights into
3: one for yourself (sleeping), one for your
wife and one for your Allah ... That's the best
night one can ever have.
LOVE MAKING IS ONLY FOR MARRIED PEOPLE.
IF U CAN'T HOLD BACK, PLZ GET MARRIED.
I WISH YOU LOVE
