Usually people start off on a very good note
in terms of their relationships. When it's
fresh, the love is deep and strong. You see
pictures all over Facebook and or instagram
and as dp on whatsapp etc. Someway
somehow things begin to fall apart...sometim
es the two can really tell what happened but
sometimes one person cannot put his or her
finger on the exact problem. Sometimes
people keep wondering what went wrong.
Here are some of the causes:
1. VALUE DIFFERENCE
Some people hastily enter into relationship
considering the treat and comfort at the
beginning of the relationship alone. They
don't take their time to get to know the
person very well. If the two believe in
different things or cherishes different
things, if not well manage can create
misunderstanding in the relationship and
later, the love will be gone. Because the
things you will cherish will not be cherished
by your partner.
2. UNFULFILLED EXPECTATION
Some people enter into relationships with
so many expectations. When these
expectations are not met it tends to make
the love go away. Sometimes people assume
that this person is like this or that but upon
getting closer, they discover that person
isn't. Though some decide to stay, a lot
more will find an excuse and walk away.
3. INVESTIGATIVE PARTNER
Some people are so jealous to the extent
that they feel insecure about their partners.
They feel their partners can leave them at
anytime or is cheating on them or people
may convince them to leave. For this reason
They become an investigator. They check
phone contents, movement plan, the kind of
friends you make, who you talk to. This
certainly will get on the nerve of anybody
and reduce trust in the relationship. With
time, the love will be gone.
4. HIDDEN IDENTITY
Some people enter into relationships and
they keep BIG secrets to themselves. Later
in the relationship the partner discovers
that...the person they are dating or madly in
love with is married or not married but has
a child or he/she isn't the person portrayed
at the beginning of the relationship. Love
and trust will vanish or diminish in most
cases.
5. ROUTINE LOVE
Some people can be one way papa. From the
beginning of the relationship they will
always meet in the room and they will always
have sex....end of story. The same thing
over and over again...nothing new. After a
while the relationship becomes boring and it
takes away the love...especially if your
partner is a fun loving person.
6. COMPARISON
Some people keep comparing their ex with
their new partner. They expect the new
partner to behave like their ex. Some even
unintentionally mention the name of their ex
when having sex and when they are moaning.
Some verbally say it in normal
conversation...if it were to be my ex, like he
or she will do it this way or that way. This
annihilates the love.
7. CHEATING
This is somebody you trust and have
defended against what everybody else is
saying. After sticking your neck out for the
person you discover that he or she is either
dating somebody else or is having sex with
another. The worse part is to catch them in
the ACT. This will break the heart and burn
the love.
8. NAGGING
If you are unfortunate and enter into a
relationship with someone who nags at every
little thing. Today it's this tomorrow it is
that. Whatever you do there is a fault. What
you wear, places you go...everything you do.
Over time you get fed up with the
relationship and the love.
9. LA GATA LOVE
Some people watch romantic movies or read
romantic books and they want their world or
relationship to be like they watched or read.
If it doesn't happen that way then to them
there is no love. They will leave.
10. THE WIND IS BLOWING
For some people, they will love you and give
you all the attention....suddenly the love is
gone and it's for no REASON. You may
think they are seeing somebody else but no.
You may think you have done something
wrong but no. You will think till thy kingdom
come. Just know that there are some people
like that whose love can experience
perpetual DUM(switched off) for no
REASON. Their mind is blown by the
direction of the wind.
NOTE
It is important not to rush into a
relationship, take your time and get to know
the person for a while. Don't focus on
having fun alone especially at the beginning
of the relationship but use the time to ask
relevant questions and study the person.
Build your love on a solid foundation.
