A very good read.
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER ??
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I
know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large
man sitting next to her so he said, "It
depends. Is that your partner?" In all
seriousness, she answered "How do you
know?" Let me answer this question because
the chances are good that it's weighing on
your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the
beginning; you fall in love with your partner.
You anticipate their calls, want their touch,
and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love
wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience. You
didn't have to Do anything. That's why it's
called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of
my feet."Picture the expression. It implies
that you were just standing there; doing
nothing, and then something happened TO
YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous
experience. But after a few months or years of
being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's
a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a
bother (if they come at all), touch is not
always welcome (when it happens), and your
spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage
vary with every relationship; you will notice a
dramatic difference between the initial stage
when you were in love and a much duller or
even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might
start asking, "Am I with the right person?"
And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love
you once had, you may begin to desire that
experience with someone else. This is when
relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not
finding the right person; it's learning to love
the person you found.
People blame their partners for their
unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes
and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes
people turn to work, a hobby, friendship,
excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the
answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside
your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love
with someone else. You could. And
TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be
in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not
finding the right person; it's learning to love
the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or
spontaneous experience. You have to work on
it day in and day out. It takes time, effort,
and energy. And most importantly, it demands
WISDOM FROM ABOVE. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no
mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your
partner), Just as there are physical laws Of
the universe (such as gravity), there are also
laws for relationships. If you know how to
apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a
feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who
walks into your life. It is up to you to decide
who you let walk away, who you let stay, and
who you refuse to let GO..
