When a guy is set to marry , he looks for
traits such as , care, love, respect , good
looking , educated , romantic , intelligent,
God fearing , industrious ,compassionate
,fun to be with etc. I must tell you, there
are some hidden signs you need to look
out for, so that you won’t be catch
unaware. like the saying goes, when you
are married, divorce is not an option. so,
be wise. don't be afraid to break a heart
because your life depends on your future
than to toil with it.
NOTE:
This may actually be applicable to ladies
too but I will want to speak from an angle
of a guy .
1) Negative Minded Ladies.
These set of ladies are always pessimistic
about anything and everything. You hardly
hear them say positive things about any
issue except their own exploit. They are in
the habit of giving and pointing to negative
examples every time. They won’t stop
asking you silly questions like “ if armed
robber should come to our house and rape
me what will you do ?” or assuming we
are married and no child for ten years
what will be your reaction? “
Note:
Am not saying one should not have some
fears about life (evils are everywhere) but
when one’s life is dominated in that
direction then, there should be a rethink.
Implication:
If you eventually end up with such woman,
she will never see anything positive in
what you do, no matter how much you try.
This can be frustrating as a man
especially the hard working ones. They are
the type that will always compete with
their husband and feel they can do better
than their husband if they have same
opportunity of equal resources.
2)Haters/ Non Appreciative
This type of lady will always hate anything
that doesn’t have anything to do with her.
She will condemn even the best obvious
good things. No news is good news to her
in as much she is not part of the
beneficiaries. She is not fascinated by
good things around. These are the type of
ladies that see a car of your relative or
friend that worth millions of naira and say
its shouldn’t be more than 500k. She looks
down on anybody that does extra ordinary
things, believing it’s noting special while
she can’t even do one per cent of such.
Implication:
These type of ladies tend to hate every of
your family members, friends, and
neighbours when she eventually gets what
she want (marriage). You your self don’t
be surprise you will always be a victim
day in day out.
Don’t mind the cordial relationship she is
having with people around you now , it’s a
matter of time when she eventually gets in
,her full blown colour will show like
rainbow in the sky.
3) The Gentle and peace lover
She is always quiet and smiling. She will
always take your opinion as the best. In
most cases, she hardly antagonises your
decisions even when it’s obvious it’s not
convenient for her. She will not let out her
opinion so that you won’t be angry. Not
that she doesn’t have one but she doesn’t
want to make you angry. Even if you are
angry she will make peace immediately
before you get out of her sight . she will
always beg .
Note:
Some ladies are naturally loving and
gentle, they take life easy, not that they
are dull but that is just their life style.
Most at times its good to fight separate
and come back . it makes partners
stronger. The separation may be short or
long . what is most important is that you
tend to reflect on the relationship if it
actually worth it or not. A situation where
one of the parties is always making sure
this doesn't happen, my brother am afraid
.
Implication:
Most ladies that falls into this category
are the ones that are very eager to marry.
She must have witnessed nearly all her
mates or younger ones wedding. So, they
need to form zombie to get what they
want. Some might have been warned by
their relatives and blamed their hot temper
for their delay in marriage. So, they had to
subside the temperament till when they
would have little or nothing to lose. When
you eventually marry this type of lady,
don’t be surprise when you receive the first
"adult slap” from your gentle wife. Watch
out. Not only that, you will be surprise
when she complains abouabout everything
and all things. Those are the ladies that
gives directly or indirect rules on family
and friends that visit the house while her
family members enjoy a free day anytime
any day. She stops begging and most
times initiate fights.
4) The masculine worker.
When you visit a lady in the house and you
discover she has the strength of more than
a man .hmmm. You see her fetching water
and balancing 50 litters of kegs of water
on both hands. You see her painting her
own room by herself, taking cutlass clear
the surroundings, cutting trees before the
Gardner resumes. She kills snakes
anyhow. She walks where men can’t even
dare.
Note:
It’s good for ladies to be hard working and
has the ability to do various house shores
but there is work for men and there are
works for women. The lady that can do
all... hmm.
Implication:
Don’t be surprises when eventually she
gets to the house and she sees nothing
much to exercise her power on hmm...
You may need to have some training in
judo or karate.
More also, these kind of ladies will not
allow anybody near your house because
she believes she can do it all. When the
work load is much, you are incorporated
into the kitchen by force by fire.
5) The Wedding Planner.
The only thing she is excited to discuss is
how the wedding day will be. She doesn’t
care about home, about future together,
about how to raise the kids. Those are the
desperados. She will never talk of how the
two of you will attend marriage seminar,
single programs, discussing family
situations etc.
Note:
It’s normal for ladies to think of wedding
and plan towards that great day. But it’s
worrisome if that is the 90% talk instead of
the marriage plan.
Implication:
Most ladies don’t understand that wedding
is not marriage. Most ladies misbehave
when they get to their husband house
because they failed to prepare for it. They
were cut unawares by their husband
character which they might have been told
at marriage seminars or read about... How
would they know when they didn’t
prepare? More also, they collude with
family members to demand for exorbitant
and outrageous bride price even when you
struggle to make sure she leaves her
fathers’ house
6) The Indoor Lady
The indoor ladies are only exposed to their
parent house, schools attended, NYSC and
church. Besides all these places, nothing
else. They can only talk only on these
places in their life time. Worst still, they
never read papers, listen to news, No
visitation of any kind and Enemies of
social media. They are uninformed set of
ladies. They are difficult to train. Worst
still, they so much have strong conviction
about the little they know. They are very
difficult to beat in an argument. They are
ready to enter into a blind argument with
you. These people are very difficult to
train. You hardly enjoy watching TV with
them or accompany you to places. Her
sense of judgment is next to error.
Implication:
welcom to a lonely life where electronic
gadgets becomes your best friend. You
will prefer talking to yourself like a mad
man than discussing with her. Reason
why you see some men glued to their
phones in the house.
7) Nollywood Fan
All their life style is built around Yoruba,
Hausa and Igbo movies. They believe
everything they see on their screen. They
are millions miles far away from reality
.They are always suspicious of all the
people around them as evil. They don’t
want to make friends so that what
happened to Ronke Oshodioke in “campus
girls” movie would not happen to them in
reality.
Implication:
They will give your life rules of life as if
you were just born to the world. Citing
relevant and irrelevant movies.
8 ) Fighting Parent Influence :
You go to her house, you over heard her
mum screaming on her daddy for hours ,
you saw or heard this with your own very
ears not once, not twice. The fact is, no
matter how nice, accommodating, humble,
loving and caring your lady is, you will
occasionally get that dose. If you are very
fortunate it won’t be a daily
dose
Implication:
she will make your life miserable!
9) The Past Perfect Secret Keeper (PPSK)
Any lady that fails to give you a hint (if
not details) of how she departed from her
former relationship(s), is dangerous. You
may soon be the victim of her regular bad
character. Like it’s said, character is like a
smoke, you can’t cover it. That character
that destroyed her former relationship she
is keeping away from you will still repeat
itself sooner or later. Watch your back bro.
