My friend posted this on fb
I've dated many guys during the course of my teens and early adulthood but no one, I mean no one, can compare to this very guy I met while serving in Cross River a few years back.
The moment we started dating, I knew he was God-sent and to top it all up, he was extremely handsome, intelligent to the core and fun to be with.
He had everything a decent woman would need in a man except that he wasn't too rich then, after all he too was serving with us, but I always believed he would one day because he had so much intellectual asset that could make any man wealthy in the nearest future, and he wasn't lazy.
Two months into the relationship and I was already feeling like I've never dated any guy before in my whole life because his love, affection and pampering far superseded all the other guys I've ever been with X10. It was like I had won a lottery.
He loved discussing future plans with me; always saying he can't wait to meet my Dad whom I never told about him (I lost my Mum at age 12).
He took me to his hometown and showed me to his family who welcomed me like their own.
Once in a while I'd steal his phone away from him just to go through his messages and chats with women on Social Media and to my greatest surprise, he had turned down so many women who tried their luck on him just because of me.
I couldn't help but love him totally. He really stole my heart.
Notwithstanding, I cheated on him so many times just to "belong" in the eyes of my friends.
To me, he wasn't even my fiance nor my hubby so I didn't owe him any kind of faithfulness.
Although he was a machine in bed, a killer kisser and a roman in romance, I just couldn't stay with him alone. I mean, I needed to catch fun while my age allowed it.
One day, he was sending some songs when a text came in. It was from one of my "boyfriends" back in Lagos, and he kinda read it.
To be frank, I can't really remember the content of the text but I could see heartbreak written all over him.
I had to lie to him that it was one of my Ex'es who was really disturbing me and that I was long over him but he didn't want to leave me. (You know normal girls kind of lie na, I couldn't afford to lose him o)
He let it go, but I knew his trust had depreciated if not long gone.
Almost a year into relationship (we had finished service) and we began to hit the rocks. We had quarrels upon quarrels.
My man had completely changed from whom I used to know.
When we talked on phone, it was brief; whilst sounding very casual to me. When we kissed, he'd just pull away, look me in the eyes, and change the subject. He became more pensive, moody and he never opened up to me like he used to.
I was totally bemused by what was going on and I started fearing that someone may have stolen him from me.
Funny enough, he even tried to settle things at some point but it just wasn't working! He was losing his love for me so fast and he couldn't help it. I knew it and it hurt me badly.
One day, while I laid on his chest, I summoned up courage and asked
"Baby, is there someone else?"
If humans could see the future, I would have known better that that question would result to something I will regret forever.
Of a truth, I knew he wasn't a womanizer. I just needed to know what was going on with such changes I was seeing.
He looked me in the eye, smiled and said "No" in a very harmless way.
Then he asked me "How is it that you ask me such a question without being judged by your own conscience?"
I was startled. What did he mean by that?
It was at this point he began unfolding to my face how many other guys I have been sleeping around with (both protected and unprotected) since we started the relationship.
He told me when (as in the exact date) for each of them and up till today, I am still shocked at how he knew all these. (although any time I cheated on him, his attitude towards me changed).
I was too weak to deny it. I had been caught pants down. I was really in love with this guy and I could feel his pain. I betrayed him. I cried my eyes out and he too sobbed.
I didn't even have the courage to beg him because I knew he was fed up.
He just dropped a paper on the bed and left the door. It turned out to be his HIV test result which was Negative.
I never saw or heard from the man of my dreams ever again after that day. I called, switched off. On Facebook? He wasn't active. His house? He had relocated. It was after I got married that I heard he was also married, comfortable and with children.
Today I'm married with 3 kids to a man; a drunk and a brute who doesn't see anything bad in dishonouring our matrimonal bed.
Please ladies, before you loose your dream man (the man God may have chosen to bless you with), thread carefully.
If he loves you, cares for you and is faithful to only you, please reciprocate because you may not know his worth and his value until he walks out of your life.
God bless you
Hmmm..its been a long time
My fellow coolvallers,how are you all doing?
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