Sometimes you see a couple who have been
together for a while and everything seems to be going great, then suddenly the relationship comes to an abrupt end.
The first question that comes to mind after
this is "what went wrong?"
Well, you didn't see it coming, but here are 5
reasons why a good relationship could go
bad.
1. Unchecked Emotional Baggage: Now,
hopefully your partner's baggage
doesn't include a surprise child, but we
have heard worse. The biggest type of
baggage which will stop the best
relationship in its tracks? Unresolved
emotional issues. All of us carry around
wounds we've received as children, or in
past relationships, but the key is how
willing you are to examine them,
understand them, and work through
them. Left unchecked, you'll likely
encounter the same problems in every
relationship you start. Self-exploration
is a wonderful thing!
2. You (or He) Stopped Trying: "Things
started out great! He planned nights
out, made me dinner, and now I can't
get him off of the couch!" Some people
put their best feet forward when trying
to woo their partners, but once they are
feeling comfortable, they stop putting
any thought or energy into the
relationship. This can be a fatal error.
Both partners have to give in a
relationship, and that means sharing
responsibilities, thinking up date ideas,
and providing dinner (even if it's take-
out!).
3. You Started Criticizing: A once-fantastic
relationship can turn negative when one
of the parties starts picking apart the
other. There really isn't room for this in
a flourishing relationship, where both
people should be lifting one another up
— not tearing them down.
4. You Got Too Physical Too Fast: It takes
time to form the healthy emotional
circuits needed to sustain a lasting
relationship. Trust and the willingness
to commit can't be rushed. But surging
sexual energy can shut out a potential
partnership if switched on too early.
Becoming physically intimate can open
up a large amount of issues that put
pressure on a fledgling relationship, so
proceed at a pace that feels right for
you.
5. There's Too Much Distance: An
emotionally distant partner can be
frustrating, which is why it is important
to keep the communication flowing.
When the talking and sharing stops, an
invisible wall goes up, which can lead to
some very unhappy endings. When it
comes to a long-distance relationship
(LDR), it can certainly work, usually if
there is an end goal in sight (knowing
that eventually you will be living in the
same city!). If you are entering into a
LDR and you happen to be jealous or
insecure, then you are in for a tough
road ahead. It's best to really consider
whether you can handle these types of
challenges — or not.
