1. Honesty
The first necessary quality to expect in a relationship is
honesty. If you don’t have that, then there is no point for the relationship to
continue. Without it, things will only go downhill. Being
honest means that you have to become emotionally intimate with your partner
and share secrets that you don’t share with anyone else. Of course, there is also
a bigger question here:
“How honest should I be?”
In fact, part of being honest is judging what to reveal and what not to reveal –
keeping a bit of mystery alive is never a bad thing in a
relationship. Of course, being honest does not mean you have carte blanche to be rude or aggressive just for the sake of telling a truth that will hurt someone. As
the proverb goes: “All truths are not to be told.”
2. Loyalty
This quality is very much related to trust and implies being there for each other –
both during the good
moments in life, but also (and especially) when life puts obstacles on your path.
“For better or for worse” might seem to be a big commitment, but even from the outset of a relationship, it’s a good philosophy to
have in mind.
If both people are there for each other, support each other in every decision, and
show tolerance, then you can be sure your
relationship will be on the path to success.
3. Maturity
For a healthy relationship, both partners must have a
relatively high level of
maturity or emotional
development and need to consider not only their own point of view, but also their
partner’s. It can be true that women are often more emotionally mature than men, especially at a younger age. However, what is really important is to be on the same page and to want the
same thing long-term. Also, both people need to treat each other with respect,
even when they disagree about something.
4. Shared
Relationship Goals
For any relationship to grow, both partners have to agree on which direction they want it to take… and then
lead it in that direction. Your
goals in your personal lives have to be the same. If you want a long-term committed
relationship, then you must find someone that wants the same. For example, imagine
someone that wants to go and live in China to work, but the other person isn’t a big
traveler and likes the
comfortable life they
currently have. Of course, having the same goals in life
does not mean you and your partner can’t compromise on
certain things – but the truth is many relationships come
to an end because the two people involved can’t agree on their future together or
are not ready to
compromise.
5. Good
Communication
Communication is the key to the lifespan (and quality) of a
relationship. Without
communication, a
relationship would simply fall apart. You have the right to
disagree on many things, what’s important though is
that you discuss your
disagreements assertively and try to find solutions. If I
can give you some advice on this, never argue on different subjects at the
same time. If you have to argue over something, then
choose what you’re going to argue about and stick to it!
This helps both partners to avoid bringing up old
grudges.
Source: jdate.com
