Every relationship that’s not clearly
defined is an absolute waste of years and
commitment. So many adults claim to be
“in a relationship” without a logical
purpose. It’s always a disheartening
experience, if after so many years of
making a relationship work, you then
discover that the relationship has a future
but without you in the picture. Being in a
supposed serious relationship with your
partner must involve visible signs of
commitment and long-living. At that point,
you can’t afford to be disappointed; you
should know what you represent in the
relationship. If you’ve been together for
years and it seems there’s no plan of
having you-two, living together-forever,
here are obvious signs to observe and
critically consider.
No. 1 – If you are the opposite of him.
When it comes to marriage, a man want a
woman that will complement him; a
woman that knows or would like to know
abit about his career or job details. Lets
take for an instance, If he’s a Public
speaker, he won’t get along with a lady
that’s shy or can’t make an appearance
before the crowd. Even when we know: we
all aren’t the same, a man would desire a
lady that’s presentable not just to his
parents and families but also at the official
front, hence, he won’t propose.
No. 2 – If you talk faster than your brain.
Such a lady on a round table with friends,
among families or relatives is a bad deal.
He sure won’t propose.
No. 3 – When you play the boss.
Sometime ago, i heard a lady telling her
man: “baby, don’t worry, i will rent the
apartment for us” Oh no, you just killed his
ego! How about: “baby, i will lend you the
money to rent the apartment but you will
pay back” and if he doesn’t, at least you
never wanted a pay-back at first. Let him
be in-charge of taking sensitive decisions.
No. 4 – When you mistake being classy as
being expensive. No man will desire a
woman that pays maximum attention to
what she wears even when he wants her to
look good. Getting the latest of this and
that doesn’t mean you’ve got money or
you’re so comfortable, it only means
nothing else receives your attention other
than how expensive you look. Such won’t
make a good wife with a man with
prospects. He just won’t propose.
No. 5 – If you are not from his home-
town. Weird but true and such does exist.
Some men will not marry any lady not in
their state or from their home-town. The
earlier you know, the better for you.
No. 6 – If there’s an ‘already-made’ lady
somewhere. He won’t propose.
No. 7 – If his mother doesn’t like you. It’s
no comics that some men are totally
controlled by their mother and we have
those whose decisions could be highly
influenced by their mother. Young lady,
instead of wasting your time while waiting
forever, just watch the mother’s body
language, you could have a clue if she
want you around her son.
No. 8 – Religion differences and family
acceptance. This sometimes could be
complex. Where the wedding will hold,
what prayers will be said etc. Alot comes
with religion differences. If he comes from
a family where their beliefs are considered
uttermost. It would be difficult for you to
be accepted, hence, he won’t propose
unless he chooses to stand against his
family or win their mind over.
No. 9 – If he’s still living with a friend or
still in his parent’s house. I think what he
needs the most and what’s best for you
both, is his freedom. That’s when you two
can plan for a good future together.
No. 10 – If the only time you have a need
is when you call him. Read again, that
could be the definition of a pest. LOL. He
won’t propose.
No. 11 – When all you do is talk about
yourself and your family. The young man
would have doubts about the future; if
you’re going to allow him take care of his
family as much as you care about yours.
No. 12 – When he sees your level of
education as a problem. Not a good one
though but i’m sorry, he won’t propose.
No. 13 – When you are so much into your
job or career.
No. 14 – When your ex-s becomes your
handbag. You said he’s your ex and you
still meet for dinner dates and whatnot, no
matter how much he trusted you, don’t
make him doubt you. Hence, you let go! It
isn’t an issue of insecurity but an issue of
doing what’s right. There is no reason for
you seeing your ex. If it’s somewhat
official, demand a replacement, find
someone else to have on those dates and
discussions; just not your ex. You both
could be friends but not regular meetings
or phone calls. Save your relationship
some drama and watch him propose to
you in no time.
No. 15 – When you are richer than him.
Not every guy out there can live with this.
It could be intimidating to have a woman
in charge of the mega bucks. Some ladies
can’t be trusted at that point and there’s a
tendency of that man losing his prestige.
Even with those cash in your account,
you’d better be humble, hence, he won’t
propose, expect if he has got the cash as
his main target.
No. 16 – When your mother influences
your decisions. That’s a straight red flag
and if care is not taken, your mum could
tell you how many times in a week you’re
gonna have sex with your man when
you’re married. There’s every need to build
a mind of your own, you can seek advise
from your mother but not you allowing her
to make the decisions in your home. It
could be dangerous!
No. 17 – When he seem to be chasing you
for too long. He won’t propose.
No. 18 – When you are dirty. Yes, that’s
the right word: dirty. He won’t propose.
No. 19 – When you have so much of male
friends and you talk too much of them
around him. It’s just like a wife murmuring
the name of a male celebrity in her sleep,
right beside her husband. LOL. He won’t
propose.
No. 20 – When you are already living with
him. Maybe in the next few years but he
won’t propose as fast as you want it. Read
The Dangers of Cohabitation
No. 21 – If you didn’t get pregnant to
confirm your fertility. Crazy? But that’s the
truth, some men are scared of ‘left-overs’,
he might want to be sure if you’re still
fertile for a child before he proposes.
Alright, beautiful list i must say. Now, if
that young man is taking like everlasting to
pop those special words – “will you marry
me”. Then perform a quick check-up on
yourself with these 21 reasons.
