When you think of the most confident
women you know, like Malala
Yousafzai, Oprah Winfrey, what is it
these ladies have in common that
allows them to approach life so
fearlessly? They carry themselves with an air of success, grace, and
determination. The energy changes
when they enter a room. They are
memorable. See how many of this list of pitfalls
you avoid and how you measure up as
a confident woman. 1. They don’t gossip. Confident women don’t talk about other
women, they talk about their dreams,
plans and aspirations. 2. They don’t doubt themselves You won’t hear them second-guessing
their decisions. Hesitation isn’t part of
their process. They know what they
are doing and why they are doing it at
all times. They think their decisions
through thoroughly but once they decide, they decide. 3. They don’t follow trends Confident women aren’t trend
followers they are trend setters. They
spend no time thinking about what is
“in” and instead they make choices
based on what they like. They are
finely attuned to their own needs and preferences. And they are not afraid to
ask for what they want. 4. They never suppress feelings When something is on their mind, you
will know it. They tell it like it is. With
confidence comes the ability to speak
your mind in a way that others hear
you. 5. They never compromise self-care Confident women know that they need
to take care of themselves to be their
best. They value a healthy work/life
balance and they take time to eat right,
sleep well and to spend an occasional
moment being pampered just because it feels good. 6. They never listen blindly Confident women like to gather their
own evidence and come to their own
conclusion. They think outside-the-box,
because if they don’t do their own fact-
finding, they know they might not see
the big picture. 7. They don’t try to please people When a woman is self-assured, she
does not need external approval. This
allows the confident woman to be her
true self and trust that people who like
her, like her for who she truly is. She
leads from her heart and has the inner- strength to handle opposition. 8. They don’t waste time on worrying. Time is valuable so spending it
concerned about what-ifs, should-
haves or could-have-beens is not
useful to the confident woman. She
knows that worry is like paying
interest on a loan before you have been approved. 9. They don’t have regret They learn from the past and they
recognize where they have made poor
choices but there’s no regret. Being
able to learn from the past rather than
regret it oozes confident. 10. They aren’t afraid to get messy Sure they know the value of a good
first impression and they like to look
their best, but they don’t care if they
are caught in a rainstorm or if they get
sandy feet while walking on the beach.
They find joy in the experience whether that is getting stuck in a
downpour or falling in the pool. 11. They don’t see failures as defeats In fact, they are usually the ones who
can tell you how many times Henry
Ford went bankrupt before he became
successful (three!). They recognize
that on the path to success their are
always bumps in the road. The ease with which they recover allows them
to keep moving forward in their
determined fashion. 12. They don’t cave to peer pressure This is largely due to the fact that they
don’t feel peer pressure. Pressure is
reserved for those who stress about
what others think. And the confident
woman just doesn’t. 13. They don’t make unconscious
choices Confident women are in touch with
their purpose and they use this to
intentionally guide their decisions. This
dauntless way of living intentionally is
part of what draws others to them. 14. They don’t ignore their instincts Even when all the facts seem to point
one way, if their gut says the other,
that is the way they go. They know
that instinct is our strongest ally in
decision making so they listen to it
religiously. 15. They don’t glorify busy Productive is different than busy. They
get the job done, they just don’t feel
overwhelmed as they are doing it. 16. They don’t take things personally They understand that your opinion is
about you, not about them. While they
value your input, if you don’t agree
with their choices, they still make
them. And they still like you. 17. They don’t find silence
uncomfortable In fact, silence recharges them. They
enjoy alone time where they can
explore personal growth and take time
to reenergize. 18. They don’t aspire to be popular They value authenticity in others and
only want friends with whom they
share a deep connection. They like
challenging conversations and this
doesn’t lead to popularity but they
don’t care. 19. They don’t need personal trainers Or alarm clocks for that mater. They
motivate themselves and are excited
to get the jump on their day – no
snooze buttons for them. 20. They don’t want fans they want
supporters They probably have 900 Facebook
friends and a ton of followers on
Instagram but what they value is the
content of their newsfeed, not the
numbers. Quality over quantity every
time. Confident women don’t need anyone to
like them. Which is probably why
everyone does!
