It is the wish of many ladies to get married
and while some ladies are fully prepared for
the institution,many are totally naive about
what lies ahead after saying i do but from my
little experience in life, i present to you 10
things no mother or pastor will tell you before
you say i do to that man.
1. That no matter how sweet the man is to
you,no matter how caring and romantic and
no matter how many prophets told you he is
your man,that sweet man can turn to a
demon after saying i do so what it seems
before marriage is never a guaranty of what it
will be after marriage.
2. If your man beats or cheats on you when
you are courting,there is a 90% possibility
that he will do even worse after marrying you
and you need to understand that it is a big
mistake to marry a man with the hope that he
will change some characters you don't like
but just learn to love him that way or take a
walk.
3. If your man beats you once,it could be a
mistake but if he beats you the second time
then its a habit he is likely never going to
stop.
4. That it is good to marry a man you have
feelings for but it is a terrible thing to marry a
man who does not desire you as much as you
desire him.
5. That if you marry a man because of what he
has and not because of mutual love then be
ready to be miserable in that marriage as long
as it lasts.
6. That a man can love you with all his life
and could still cheat on you because most men
think with that thing down there when it
comes to their feelings for women and are
polygamous in nature and no matter how
sweet and disciplined you are,it will not stop
him from cheating on you and divorcing a
cheating hubby is no guaranty that the next
man won't do worse.
7. As a lady, as long as you are sexually
decent,GOD fearing,an excellent
cook,financially independent and humble,you
have absolutely nothing to fear because it will
be extremely difficult for your man to
disrespect you much less divorce you.
8. That not all men are calm but some have
innate tendency to be violent so you must try
at all cost to avoid any form of confrontation.
9. That women are women worst enemies and
many of your female friends will be glad to
see your marriage crumble so avoid
discussing your marital flaws with them but
take it to God in prayers and you must block
your ears from hear says and believe what
your hubby tells you even when you have an
irking that he is lieing and whatever you have
not seen does not exist.
10. That there is always a lady out there who is
ready to push you out of your matrimony and
take your place but 90% of men who cheat on
their wives are not ready to divorce their
wives but it is these wives that push the man
out with impatience and hot temper so you
will need lots of patience to deal with a
philanderer because in most cases,they
always come back home after having their
feel of the side dishes.
11. That no man owns the key to your marital
happiness except you because most men are
the same and no man is worth the stress and
as soon as you are married,you should focus
on building your life as well as that of your
child(ren) .
12. That no marriage is perfect but every
marriage has its own perculiar challenges and
you must be ready to work on your marital
pasture to look green cos that greener marital
pasture you see on the other side have been
worked so work on yours and remember that
a happy union is not between two compactible
people or two romantic people but its the one
between two forgivers so learn to forgive and
you will have a happy union.
13. That no matter how careful you may be in
choosing a spouse,marriage will always be a
black market where you must prepare for
unforeseen situation and there is no right or
wrong choice of man but what we have is
your choice and what you make out of it and
only GOD can guaranty a happy marriage.
Hope these make some sense.
