It is no longer news hearing
that couples are breaking up
or experiencing problems in
their marital lives. While the
society has chosen to see this
as a norm, it is far from
being normal.
We need not tell you the
reasons why people come
together in holy matrimony to
become one; we need not talk on
the expectations of individuals
who venture into marriages. But
one thing that is certain is that
they go into it to work on
themselves.
It is far from the expectations
of couples for them to divorce
or drift apart in their sojourn
as husbands and wives. And in
this present day generation, it
is pathetic seeing young married
people that are separated or
those who still live in the same
house but with love that has
grown cold.
The society lays more emphasis
on the women and the role they
have to play to make their
marriages work. As a matter of
fact, most people think it is
totally up to the women to build
their homes and make
something out of the union.
On this note, it would be great
for us to drop our own
disclaimer. Women should not,
in a bid to savage things,
succumb to domestic violence.
They should learn to speak up
and walk out from abusive
relationships.
As a woman, below are some of
the things you could do to make
your husband love you the more:
1. Call him pet names
It is boring calling your husband
by your child’s name; he had an
identity before he became a
father. Use beautiful words for
him, generate your own unique
name and make him feel special.
2. Allow him to be the head
No man wants his authority to
be challenged as the head of
the family. Learn to make him
the head in his jurisdiction; do
not make him feel less of a man
by questioning his authority.
Even if you earn more than him,
being submissive would make
him love you more and respect
you.
3. Learn to say sorry when
you are wrong
Saying sorry saves you from
further fights and arguments.
As a woman, it may be up to you
to let peace reign. Please, sorry
and thank you are words we
should learn to use always. Do
not apologize grudgingly, do it
with a gesture of affection.
4. Make him his favorite dish
when he is broke
Men go through lots of mental
stress when they are broke.
This is because they know they
have a family who depends on
them for their survival. You can
ease your husbands’ stress by
making him his favorite meal
when he is low on cash.
By doing this, you are lending
him support and inspiring him to
be better.
5. Do not leave his affairs to
the maids
If your husband is as important
as you say he is, then make it
your duty and yours only to
serve him and tend to his needs.
Do not assign a maid to him as
he could become so used to
them and choose the maids over
you. Your husband would love
you more when he sees the
efforts you make in seeing to
his welfare.
6. Drop him short notes
Women should stop using
children as excuses. Your
husbands married you as a
woman, not as a mother. Do not
stop being that woman because
you are now a mother.
Remember the children would
leave some day and you would be
alone again. Would you be
strangers or friends then? Drop
him notes and call him to check
on him while he is working.
7. Help him undress each day
If you want your husband to
love you more, make it your duty
to give him a warm embrace
when he returns. Help him
undress and rub his back while
he is having his shower. This
would draw you two closer each
day and help him save his
energy for you.
8. Learn to pray for him
While you do not like to be
disturbed early in the morning,
adapt to a new system of
waking up while he gets up to
dress for work. Pray for him
and pray with him. It would give
him a sense of assurance; he
would also love you more for
that. If there are other women
apart from you, they would
gradually lose their holds on
him.
9. Do not starve him sexually
Most women make their
husbands beg them before they
agree to sleep with them. This
is wrong! A man is expected to
wake up with a hard on, be
readily available for this. He
may be too tired at night to lift
a finger so touch him then till
he gets the urge to drive into
you.
10. Encourage him to take
care of his family members
The woman is the home maker.
While your husband is busy
striving to put food on the table
for you and your children, be a
good partner by encouraging him
to do so for his family too. His
parents would respect you and
speak for you when you have
challenges.
In cases where he cheats, he
would always know deep down
that you are an amazing woman
that cannot be compared to
other women out there.
